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How do I explain scars when a young child asks about them?

Profile: NyxCain
NyxCain on Oct 16, 2016
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Sometimes it's better telling kids that everyone has some scars from various different events in their lives. If you use a vague enough answer they usually won't ask about it again.
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Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on May 13, 2017
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I think it depends on the situation, and the child in question. When my significant others younger siblings (aged between 5 and 8 at the time) started asking about my scars, I got creative. They're my battle scars, my tiger stripes, thats just how I look, and some people look different. Depending oin the situation I think it's also good to explain to them that some people may loom different, but might not like being asked about it, and they should talk to a parent in private.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jun 26, 2019
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When a young child asks about such a thing, many people freak out and don't know what to say. For me, it makes me happy to take the opportunity to help them get a basic understanding. Often times, they just want a simple answer to satisfy the question. That's often enough. If they care to know, I think it's importand to not hide and keep it from them, but answer in a way they will understand. Something like, "Scars are from when an injury/boo boo heals. Some people who have a lot of them, have been hurt or have hurt a lot." sometimes that'd be enough. If not you could add something like, "they feel hurt inside, and they need help but feel stuck and their hurt goes from inside their body, onto the outside of their body." if they ask how, again simple terms without too many details, " they get there because the person is hurting so much inside that it spills onto the ouside of their body. This happens because when it is too full inside, they make the outside hurt by hurting themselves to make themselves happy for a little while, to fill some of the inside with happy instead of happy and hurt. They want to feel good." then you'd explain its not okay. Children do best with explanations they'll understand.
Profile: Millichidulinas
Millichidulinas on Jul 13, 2016
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If you want to tell the real reason of them you have to say it in an easy way. If you want to tell him/her somethin else, like an accident, you can.
Profile: ameliaglazner
ameliaglazner on Aug 14, 2016
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Explain it like this "it's a wound from a war I once fought alone" and since it's a kid they might not fully grasp what ur saying but u can then say "it's a sign of victory or hope"
Profile: SympatheticPrune2001
SympatheticPrune2001 on Sep 7, 2016
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You could say you tripped over, you don't have to tell a young child the entire truth. It would be best not to.
Profile: SoothingSavannah
SoothingSavannah on Feb 9, 2018
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You could say these are my stripes, like the ones tigers have. Tigers gain them after battles like I do.
Profile: LucieG
LucieG on Apr 12, 2018
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Say they are a map, showing the path you took to become the strongest person you can be. Scars are reminders of how far you have come
Profile: AprylFools
AprylFools on Apr 26, 2018
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This is a hard thing to explain, but what you can do is reassure them that they're normal. Try breaking it down into little sections, start with explaining how they occur. Reassure them that they are natural.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on May 5, 2018
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When my godson enquired about my old scars I told him I fell, i was hurt, but now I have healed, isnt that great!
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