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How do I explain scars when a young child asks about them?

Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Dec 14, 2017
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Children are usually creative so telling them straight forward is not the best idea. Try something like "well you see, i was a soldier once and i got through a really big battle and here are my battle scars". The metaphor for this is you, as a soldier in a war/battle (with yourself or the world around who brought you in the state of self harm) and the battle scars which are showing that you were at a bad time in your life but you got through it and now you're healing. I find this method very effective. Kids usually don't ask any more questions after you tell them that. I hope this helps
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Profile: SensitiveSpot
SensitiveSpot on Jan 14, 2018
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I have had difficulty with that also. Sometimes I just tell them it was a bad experience and I don't feel comfortable talkimg about it.
Profile: there4u3nyt1m3
there4u3nyt1m3 on Jan 20, 2018
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Explain them with pride and with light hearted responses such as: "These are my battle scars from a long time ago that make me stronger, like a superhero"
Profile: MollyCule
MollyCule on Jan 24, 2018
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An honest answer could be that you got them a long time ago when you were unwell. That's truthful without being graphic.
Profile: Emily619
Emily619 on Jan 26, 2018
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It can be rough when young children ask about self-harm scars. It can be easy to lie about it; however, in reality, it's best to be honest regarding your scars. You don't have to go into great depth, but simply letting them know that you went through a time of emotional pain and, as a result, went through some physical pain as well to try to cope with your emotional pain is a good way to put it to a child.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Feb 7, 2018
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If You feel like they are old/mature enough to know tell the truth, if not you can make up a silly excuse that a young child would believe. Best of luck!
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Anonymous on Feb 7, 2018
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It's probably better not to tell them that it was because you hurt yourself. You can make something up instead: (a funny story, a birthmark, etc.)
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Anonymous on Feb 8, 2018
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Sometimes it works when you say they're your battle scars from a difficult time, but not every time. I've used that sentence in the past and it has worked fine.
Profile: BerrySunset
BerrySunset on Feb 10, 2018
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I think it depends on the person, how you handle it. You might say something like "they're my battle scars, and they remind me of challenges in my life I had to overcome". Or you could just say "bike accident" or even "let's talk more when you're older".
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Feb 18, 2018
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Children are usually creative so telling them straight forward is not the best idea. Try something like "well you see, i was a soldier once and i got through a really big battle and here are my battle scars". The metaphor for this is you, as a soldier in a war/battle (with yourself or the world around who brought you in the state of self harm) and the battle scars which are showing that you were at a bad time in your life but you got through it and now you're healing. I find this method very effective. Kids usually don't ask any more questions after you tell them that. I hope this helps
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