How can I stop having an urge to self harm ?

When I was younger, I use to have a jar and everyday I didn't cut I would put a marble in the jar. It was simple but with everyday passing and a marble being put in the jar. I didn't want to cut anymore. I wanted the jar to be full.

Try some other coping mechanisms. Do anything you're interested in or just something to keep your kind off things. The best way to stop self-harming is to ignore it, and pretend that you don't really want to do it. Tell yourself that those silly thoughts aren't yours. It's a difficult process, and there might be some relapses, but you can do it. I did it. So many people have over come self-harm, so can you. You have to believe in yourself. I know it's hard, trust me. But never give up. "You have many options in life. Never make giving up one of them," ~Austin Carlile. Some alternatives are- -drawing/painting/any form of art -watching TV -talking to friends (or someone on here(or, if you have a twitter, sign up for the Buddy Project https://twitter.com/ProjectBuddy )) -cook -clean -go on a walk -listen to music, sing -blog -paint your nails -shower -take a nap -memorize a poem/song -write down your feelings and organize them. try to find out why you are feeling the way you do -hug someone (even a pillow) -say beep boop boop (don't ask, just do) -think of all the people who care about you and don't want you hurting yourself (me included) -look up other alternatives or things to do but always remember. You. Are. Not. Alone. Stay strong, sunshine. P.S. -"We cut and kill flowers because we think they are beautiful. We cut and kill ourselves because we think we are not." ~(M.O.B.) "If I were you, I'd put that away. You're just wasted and thinking about the past again. Darling you'll be okay." ~Pierce the Veil

Ironically, allowing the urge to be there is one of the best ways to stop future urges. When you let the urge be with you, observe it in your mind, understand its effects on your body, and still choose not to act on it, you gain power over the urge. You show that urge that no matter how loudly it screams, you can choose to see it for what it is and act in healthier ways. Over time, with persistence, urges will arise less frequently and with less intensity.

I am wondering if it is at all possible to stop urges, my thoughts would be that you might struggle with them until you learn to distract yourself and learn that your urges are not as powerful as they often feel. Once you learn to cope with them you will no doubt discover that they have no power at all

find a hobby. Just keep yourself busy.Just find simple things like playing games(indoor,outdoor or video),reading books etc and start doing them.Keep yourself occupied and enjoy, this will surely help.

Focus on things you like to do. Things that make you happy. Self harm is an agressive way of feeling good. If you try to do some activity that brings you the same feeling, it's always the best option.

Close your eyes and breathe. Take a piece of paper and draw on it, color it, write on it, then tear it into pieces. You're strong, you're important, you're beautiful. You don't have to hurt yourself. You're not alone.

Do what makes you happy, even though you don't feel like doing it. Doing happy stuffs makes you happy. Trust me.

Draw with pen or marker wherever you self harm at.❤ it helps lots and try the butterfly expierement if that doesn't work.

Most people self harm because they see it as a way to be punished. But why would you need to be punished? If you have done something bad or something that you're ashamed of you need to take responsibility and own up to it and say hey I messed up. When you can admit you did something wrong the recovery becomes easier. When you feel the urge to self harm get up and go on a walk, to a friend or a parent, do something you enjoy to keep yourself busy. Or do things you've been procrastinating. Best wishes.