Do the thoughts of self harming ever go away, even if you've officially stopped?

Eventually, and sometimes. It's different for everyone. But don't get sad if the thoughts don't fade even after whomever has stopped. Whoever has officially stopped, and that's what matters.

Everyone is different, some people are able to stop thinking about it, but others won´t unfortunately.

Sometimes they may not, when I was younger I had a lot going going on in my family, and I started to self harm because it was so stressful and I couldn't take it.. But now I don't do it anymore, but yes sometimes I still feel the urge to.

Self harming is an addiction. I believe they will slowly disappear. It will be a long battle just like any addiction, but just stay strong and believe in yourself. You'll make it.

Self harm free for 2 years! In the last year I haven't the urge or thought to hurt myself- even my coping techniques have gone without thought- I can honestly say I haven't been happier. It's different for everyone though; some people just need to get through a time period (eg 6 months) with no self harm and can never do it again, some relapse after thinking they've stopped. If the thoughts do come back remember why you stopped and know that self harm doesn't fix the problem; go back to your coping techniques if you really feel you need to (pain free coping methods are probably the best). We all deserve the best and the right not to want to hurt ourselves, I truly hope anyone dealing with self harm get through it and can be happy again- and remember the 7cups community is always here.

I believe after awhile they can fully go away. With the right coping skills and knowledge you can achieve this!

I think they can but it may take some time, self harm is an addiction so it may take years to get those thoughts to go away but you can always find ways to cope with them

Yes, eventually they do go away when you get better. It definently takes time, but they go away for sure.

This is a difficult question as everyones experience with mental health is different. Everyone is unique and so are their life experiences so the outcomes are never going to be identical. What might work for one person won't necessarily work for another. Try speaking to one of the 7 cups therapists who can help guide you in managing your thoughts and how to process your feelings. There are many helplines and support groups that can give you some really useful tools and information. You could always try your GP or health care centres to see if there is any local support or advice they could give you.

Hi there! And yes, they do go away eventually. First months though are always challenging - the important thing is to get rid of the objects which were used to self-harm. Then, to seek an activity that frees the mind of these thoughts every time they arise. It can be anything that makes you occupied or relaxed, it depends on a person. For me talking to a friend about something whenever I've felt the need helped a great deal. In time, when you see the scars that self-harm left, you will think of a struggle, but in a good way, as something that's now proof of your courage and determination. You will remember bad days and feel proud that you learned to cope with them better. Remember that thoughts of self-harm will fade away. We're here to support you along the way. Take care!