Am I a bad person for self harming?
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Updated: Sep 11, 2018
Andrew1137
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Feb 27, 2017
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Self harming does not make somebody a bad person. Self harm is a habit that some people pick up as a coping mechanism and from personal experience, I know it is very hard to stop. It provides a temporary but immediate relief and it can be tempting to continue. It however is not a good habit to have as it can make a person feel worse in the long run and it is damaging. I would absolutely suggest that you seek out help to stop doing it and maybe even research some safe alternative coping methods on your own. Depending on what triggers it, various busy-work activities tended to help me when I had a big problem with it. I hope you find the road to recovery.
Anonymous
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Apr 17, 2017
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No, I am not but that does not mean it is not bad. Self harming is a way to express my emotion when everything is a blur and I cannot relax but knowing I should not makes it harder.
Youarepriceless
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Sep 26, 2017
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No, it doesnt make you a bad person. I understand you do it as a release or as a way to cope. I understand that you have a reason for doing what you do and that can be difficult to grasp for someone who has never been in your shoes.
It does make me sad that people self-harm but its not my place to judge, I hope you are trying to find another way and getting help where you can, because as a person you deserve as much respect, kindness and love as anyone else, so I hope you will be the first person to give that to yourself each day.
Jennifer164
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Feb 5, 2018
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You are not a bad person!It's just that self harming is wrong but it's not your fault that you harm yourself.Please try to find out a safe and positive alternative to this.And remember that it's not your mistake!
Anonymous
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Apr 17, 2018
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nope you are just being cruel to urself . U are such a beautiful person just going through a bad phase but all u gotta do is hang in there and have faith. Things always dont work out the way we want but tht's not the end my frnd :)
all the best for life
and nxt time u think of harming urself just take a min and think about those pple who gave birth to u and looked after u i am sure u;ll stop :)
Anonymous
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Jul 23, 2018
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No self harm is a coping mechanism it may be unhealthy but it doesn't make you a bad person no matter what people say
BunnySQUEAK
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Sep 11, 2018
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No! Please never think that! Maybe it isn’t the nicest form of relief, but if it works for you and you are seeking help and know your limits it’s okay. Remember to seek help, you are not alone! Please please please remember that! I know that some times it can be rather scary to seek help but trust me it is so so so so so sooooo worth it! Some times there may be a ever so long wait for help, be this at a local docotors or on the phone. But it is always worth it. Remember you can always google your local help numbers. Stay strong.
SupportiveSkye02
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Sep 11, 2018
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No, you are most certainly NOT a bad person for self harming. Self harming is a coping mechanism. It may not be the best or most safe mechanism, but it is a way of dealing with overwhelming emotions. Here at 7 cups we are here to help and guide you as best as we can through these hard times where you have the urge to self harm. It can be very dangerous and we want to help you in the best way possible and listen to how you feel about everything. You dont have to go through it alone .
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