Am I a bad person for self harming?
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Moderated by Maria Wasielewski, Master of Arts in Counseling and Guidance, University of Arizona
Updated: Sep 11, 2018
Erynn
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Apr 11, 2015
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No. No you are not. Regardless of why you self harm - to feel things, to stop feeling things to show people your pain, to show yourself your pain, to punish yourself.... why ever you harm - it does NOT make you a bad person. We harm when we don't know what else to do; when it seems nothing else is working. I hope you can eventually learn other ways to cope so that, someday, you no longer need to hurt yourself, but you are NOT a bad person for doing this or feeling this way. We do what we need to to get through what we struggle with. I'm sorry you're struggling so much - but our maladaptive coping methods do not make us bad people. Hang in there friend. I hope you find all the support you need.
onyxmichie
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Apr 11, 2015
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No you're not. Def not. If someone ever tells you that you're bad person, punch them. (im sorry but its true)
Amanda9715
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Apr 29, 2015
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Self harm does not make you bad, it doesn't make you anything other than someone trying to cope with what they have going on.
janetreshia
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May 23, 2015
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Absolutely not. You're not a bad person, just a person in a bad situation. Most people dealing with the worse situations in life would probably resort to that. And that is why how to deal with these cases is to actually fix the situation you're into. This might save yourself from doing self-harm.
originalLion57
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Jun 4, 2015
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No! Absolutely not. You are a person who is in pain and has found a way of coping with that pain, but it is an unhealthy and toxic way to cope with pain and it doesn't make the pain go away, the pain always comes back.
krissy0423
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Jun 13, 2015
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Of course not. Everybody copes differently. You just have to find a more peaceful way to deal with whats happening in your life so you wont want to harm yourself..
Anonymous
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Jun 17, 2015
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Absolutely not. Self harming is a coping mechanism; using an unhealthy coping mechanism doesn't make you an inherently bad person- in fact, willingness to try and stay clean and treat yourself better is a really good thing.
Anonymous
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Jul 7, 2015
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No, you are not a bad person for self harming! You are probably going though a hard trial and using self harm as a way to cope.
Oceanlove
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Jul 7, 2015
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No way. It doesn't make you a bad person, you're not harming anyone else but yourself. You're worth more than that though. You don't deserve to be hurt. I know that the feeling of pain can help deal with pain from other sources, but it's not a great thing to do. Your body is the thing that you rely on the most, it supports you, and gives you life. Try to talk to someone about it, someone who can support you
Anonymous
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Aug 24, 2015
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No you are not a bad person for self harming. You just have to put your head up and keep moving foward with your life.
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