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Why do I have a gut-wrenching feeling down my stomach after a friend told me something I disagree with, not physically, but emotionally?

Profile: admirableRose261
admirableRose261 on May 15, 2021
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When we deal with difficult emotions, physical and emotional pain can be felt. It is the body's response to stress. Being disappointed can leave us reeling but the key takeaway from those experiences is to understand who you are and what you need. A boundary has been breached - what is it? Any sort of discomfort is a signal we need to listen to. Try talking to your friend about the feeling - "you know when you said that, I felt nauseated, etc". Listen to their response. It might feel uncomfortable but it is better to air out your differences to strengthen your bond as friends. They will appreciate your honesty even if they find it strange or troublesome at first. Lead with love and compassion, honesty and authenticity - be yourself!
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Anonymous on May 19, 2021
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I think this gut-wrenching feeling is caused because you know you disagree and that makes you feel scared. If you show that you disagree, there is a chance that the differences could cause some time of tension between the two of you. The thought of this might scare you because you don't want to lose your friend, but you want to show that you do not agree. Along with this, you might also just be scared because you think that if you and your friend don't believe in the same thing, this means that you guys might have some difficulties due to the differences in opinions. It is important for you to remember that just because you guys don't agree on something, your friendship is not always at risk as long as both of you are able to open up to each other and share your opinions. Even the best of friends go through disagreements over many topics, but this does not compromise their friendship.
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Anonymous on Nov 3, 2021
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Part of the reason you feel like this is possibly because you might not like confrontation. Having a difference in opinions or views can be a cause of this feeling because you fear it will cause problems in your friendship. I have been like that in the past but I have learned that you can still express your feelings and opinions without it having to become a bigger issue. Remembering to choose words wisely and remain respectful plays a big part in it. It is okay to agree to disagree. If you are not comfortable saying anything at all is okay as well you can simply ask to change the topic or step away from the conversation if you feel better doing that.
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vetsblessednow8 on Nov 26, 2021
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Sorry, you have that feeling. Sometimes that might be instinct telling you what you should or should not do or say. When the friend said what they did, maybe you didn't agree and did not talk about it to the friend. The feeling will continue to gnaw at you until you do or say what you need to. This can also be called conviction. It tells you right and wrong. Since you disagree and if it okay to do, you may want to let the friend know how you feel and get free of the feeling in your stomach. That might make you free and your friend will thank you.
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LittleIvy on Dec 11, 2021
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This is a very good question. Usually, such a reaction indicates a very strong feeling toward what's being said. Ask yourself, "why do I disagree with what my friend said?" Is this something that triggers a painful or vivid memory? Does it go against your values and beliefs? Are you worried for you friend? Is this the first time this happens? Writing your thoughts about this will help you understand this feeling and where it comes from. You have the answer within you. Journaling might unlock these answers and help you identify your emotions a little bit clearer.
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Bien2020 on Mar 2, 2022
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I think it normal to have disagreements with friends. It's not something we always want to have but it shows that you have a compassionate heart when you feel emotionally affected after a disagreement with a friend or a loved one. You can take this as an opportunity to find a deeper reason to why you are feeling this way about what your friend is telling you and how you can better support them. This can be difficult at times and not something that we want to become an issue, but it sounds like your friend has trusted you to being vulnerable with you to tell you something, even if you don't agree.
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Anonymous on Apr 13, 2022
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I feel this comes from the feeling of disappointment. When you have someone that you hold to a high standard and value their opinion it is only natural for you to feel somewhat disappointed when you disagree with their standpoint. It is uncomfortable not being on the same page with the person you care about however, it is okay for people to have a difference in opinion. The important thing is trying to find some sort of common ground as well as trying to give each other the freedom and validation to feel how they want to with respect to others.
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Chrissylawrence1983 on May 18, 2022
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Gut-wrenching events or experiences make you feel extremely shocked or upset. When you're anxious, your body goes into fight-or-flight mode. Staying in this state for a long time can increase tension, irritability, physical symptoms, and your ability to regulate your emotions. A 2005 study reported that people with generalized anxiety disorder experienced more intense emotions. learn how to open up. find ways to relieve stress and anxiety. improve their ability to trust others. strengthen their sense of self. develop skills for regulating their emotions. That sense of knowing you recognize as a gut feeling tends to come up in specific situations or when thinking about a certain person. This intuition usually leads you toward a concrete decision or action. Anxiety, on the other hand, tends to focus on the future and often has less definition.
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