Why do I have a gut-wrenching feeling down my stomach after a friend told me something I disagree with, not physically, but emotionally?

It could be that what your friend told you triggered you or it could be something you really don't like to hear. But more than likely you were triggered if the feeling is a "gut-wrenching" one

Because may be and just may be a part of you so feels so strongly about it that it is difficult for you to carry out the relationship either without the letting person know how much it is affecting you or in extreme scenario ending it but may be because you do not have an option you would rather let it go.

It can be difficult to know that someone close to you has a view which differs from your own. Especially for highly agreeable individuals, minor conflicts of opinion can be particularly troubling. The feeling in your gut suggests that this revelation of a potential disagreement makes you nervous, perhaps of a potential confrontation, or alternatively it may be pain from learning that someone close to you disagrees with you on an important issue.

There is a psychological phenomenom called "cognitive dissonance" that comes into play when something like that happens. Since a friend, which is a person you like, has just said something you don't like or agree with, your mind finds it difficult to accept that both elements are linked together, and causes that feeling, hoping for a way to dissociate those elements (and sometimes succeeding).

It's because you disagree with it! You might have a different opinion on something and your friend has another opinion. When two parties don't agree there might be some tension

I know exactly what you're talking about since I myself have experienced this a lot of times with my very close friends. After a lot of analysis, I think the reason we feel down emotionally is because in some way or the other we expect our friends to be like us. After all, that is how people become friends in the first place; over shared interests, shared opinions etc. So finding out that they also have different views about certain things apart from the ones that they share with us can be disappointing. I think the best way to get over it is to understand the fact that they in themselves are a different person; this is what makes them, them. If everyone thought or behaved in the same way then the world would be too boring. I also like to think that you only truly like someone when you can like them despite their flaws or difference of opinions

Because whatever the thing being disagreed on was is important to you, and your emotions reacted intensely to it.

It is because you trusted that friend enough to tell her what are the things you disagree. However, instead of supporting your thoughts, your friend has other ideas and opinions on that similar topic. You feel that your friend is unable to connect with you and might feel anxious too. It's normal, i get it it most of the time too.

You're most likely realizing that you are your own person and your friend may not be exactly who you thought they'd be. Either way, you know yourself best and you are under no obligation to agree with your friend if you don't think they are right :)

The gut wrenching pain you're experiencing might be because of anxiety. I can not take back the words that your friend said but I can tell you this I am here for you we are here for you and the entire 7 Cups community is here for you and we are here to listen. If there is anything you want to talk about or if you need a shoulder to cry we are here.