Why do I get scared about being in a relationship?

you could be scared of being cheated on which I can say is a horrible thing to go through from past experience or you could be scared of commitment

I have had 3 relationship experiences and I have been afraid of all of them just because I never thought I would ever be able to be my true self around them. I thought I was super weird, gross and a bad type of unique. Like why would anyone love me and be in a relationship with me? I would start having a crush, become friends and eventually they supposedly liked me back, they either really did or they didn't and most of the time, I couldn't see the truth behind what they told me just because my anxiety always told me I would never be good enough for anybody to actually be in love with.

We can have a lot of bad examples around us that nourished our trust issue. Then it can be because of past bad experiences. Like maybe your ex emotionally manipulated you, broke your trust, treat you less than what you deserve. Maybe your ex was just with you for sex. You were somehow taken advantage of. All these might have taken a toll on your emotional well being and you are scared to be in a relationship. The trauma that still haunts you won't let you trust anybody with your heart again. Apart from it, you think that your freedom will be cut down by the other and maybe the emotional need may be too much for you to fulfill. That's why you escape commitment.

The scary parts of relationships is that you don't know if you are going to get hurt. You don't know when it will end if it does end or how it will end. There are too many questions. The unknown is hard but it something that you just have to try and come to terms with.

Relationship are stressful. They can put a lot of strain on us sometimes. Making us fear complications that could arise from the relationship, making you scared.

If you have been a bad relationship before then you need to tell yourself that not everyone is the same.

I have been hurt a lot. My trust in relationships is very low. I have to work on self love and my own trust first. I feel like my radar is just way off when it comes to healthy people!

It is a big big step. Relationships are often built on trust. Trust is something that is earnt and can be hard to give or have. You trust the other person not to hurt you and therefore are scared in case they do.

You are afraid of being in a relationship because you have had your heart broken several times before

Most people are scared of commitment and heartbreak. These might be the reasons you're scared to get into a relationship.