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Why did my ex continue to try and make me feel guilty about leaving even though she had already moved on to someone else while letting believe that she was still alone?

Profile: SylvanGrantaire
SylvanGrantaire on Oct 7, 2018
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I'm sorry you're hurting. There could be three different reasons. 1. Manipulators enjoy feeling powerful. They feel powerful when they control people. Your ex probably enjoys controlling you - your emotions, your relationships, your actions. and is using you to make herself feel powerful. 2. Your ex may be punishing you for leaving. She may feel embarrassed and be lashing out, or she may just be a not-nice person. You do NOT deserve to be punished. You have every right to leave bad situations. If she's treating you like this after breakup, I know the relationship was bad. I'm proud of you for leaving that bad situation - leaving manipulation is hard, and you're strong for doing it. I'm proud of you! You do not deserve to be hurt, and I'm proud of you. 3. Plan B. Sometimes, an ex will move on to someone new, but keep you on the hook as a Plan B, in case the new relationship falls through. Keeping you in limbo is wrong. I don't know which she is. But none of them are good. You were strong enough to leave. You're strong enough to cut ties. This ex is hurting you, and she enjoys hurting you. Point-blank. So. Avoid her, Block her, stay away. You're a good person who deserves a good life, and a happy future free from guilt. Remember it isn't your fault, cut her out of your life, and slowly grow (it's okay to be sad at first) into your new freedom and happiness.
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Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Sep 22, 2020
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She May do everything to make u feel guilty. However the reality here is, she is the one feeling all that guilt even if she may have moved on, here mind is back here with you. Beleive in yourself!No matter what anyone says, u should know that you did your best. You gave all effort u could. There was nothing left you could do to make her stay. And she scolding you and making you feel guilty proves that she realised what she did was a mistake. Her mistake. And now she is Just in this misunderstanding that she would have her peace doing all this!
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