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What's the best way to deal with emotional blackmail from a partner?

Profile: friendlyTree1443
friendlyTree1443 on Aug 19, 2020
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break all relationship with regards to that thing and complete with him/her. leaving them happy and most importantly that you are happy. It is a really bad thing happened and you can learn from it. There is a trust that person have broken. If you are sure that thing is for real then you should take a step as soon as possible and find out a way to complete. If it was about a business than you can have a new partner or you can separate I think the same is in relationship. Always remember to who you are and don't let them down you.
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Profile: ph14
ph14 on Sep 18, 2020
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I have never been in a rewarding, fulfilling relationship that involved emotional blackmail. It's not always possible to end these kinds of relationships, and it's rarely easy, but if that's an option I have always been better off ending the relationship. If that's not an option, at least at the time, then I have had to draw firm boundaries within that relationship. I had help from a professional counselor in learning how to create and maintain boundaries, but there are other resources that can help with that learning process. I've found it important to seek support from wherever it's available. It might be worth exploring the relationships community here on 7cups!
Profile: calmingturtles369
calmingturtles369 on Sep 20, 2020
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The best way to deal with this is to understand that you are in a toxic relationship. Emotional blackmail is never okay, and for your partner to do this to you is absolutely wrong. No one deserves to be treated like this, including you. Everyone deserves to be happy, and no matter what you do, it is important to recognize that your partner is toxic, and to take their blackmail with a grain of salt. Threatening behavior is not okay, and you should not have to be put in the situation where you have to walk around eggshells. Get out of the situation, so you can continue being your happy self.
Profile: silverHero4377
silverHero4377 on Nov 4, 2020
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The first step is to recognize emotional blackmail for what it is. Once you recognize the signs you have more control over your reaction to the situation. An emotional blackmailer can make you question yourself, your worth, your judgement, and in the worst instances, even your sanity. Gaining knowledge and understanding of the process being used by the blackmailer allows you, intellectually, to see that you are being manipulated. Once you see what is going on you can react from a place of power as opposed to a place of fear or weakness. Emotional blackmail is abuse and should be recognized as such.
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Anonymous on Nov 19, 2020
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Maybe it would be best to find a way out of this relationship, or to resolve the problem. It's not fair to you to have to "deal" with this, because that's a sign of a toxic relationship. Better would be to find someone you trust to help you get out of the relationship or go to counseling to help your partner with this blackmail, if you feel the relationship is salvageable. It's not fair to you to have to handle this alone, or at all. Get help, get your partner help and figure out what works best for you guys
Profile: MikuoniandBlueCheese
MikuoniandBlueCheese on Jan 15, 2021
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Emotional blackmail is something that you shouldn't submit to. It's a dirty tactic done by desperate people, if you do love your partner, then ask them why they are doing what they are doing, if you want to get away from your partner, I would just get away from them. Them trying to trap you into an unhealthy relationship is something that you don't deserve, and you shouldn't subject yourself to. My opinion on the matter is to just look into your heart and see what you want, and what you think is best, and if you are willing to help them, and if not, it's perfectly OK to let them go.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Apr 22, 2021
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The best way that I have found for myself is to remember that I am my own person. It is easy in situations like this for me to be so caught up in the others persons' emotions that I forget that I have my own emotions, thoughts and feelings, and that I am a separate being. I have found that it is best for me to step away and set appropriate boundaries for myself to keep myself safe, and in turn that keeps the other person safe as well, by giving everyone some needed space to think and feel for themselves.
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Anonymous on Dec 1, 2021
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The best way to deal with emotional blackmail from a partner is to leave. If someone is willing to emotionally blackmail you is that considered love? Or is it that person simply trying to manipulate and control you? I do not think relationships should go through things like this because this is not love. Relationships should be a safe place for you to feel loved, safe, and free to be yourself. I do not think anyone should be with a partner who emotionally blackmails them. That is not love. So my answer to this question would be to leave and find true happiness.
Profile: sailingpaperboat
sailingpaperboat on Feb 4, 2022
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Reach out to your parents or someone from the law to sit and have an informal discussion. If things don't resolve, file a complaint. Always record every conversation you had as a proof to be shown later. Involving both parents is also a good option, and if not parents then an elder sibling or a guardian. Understand that they also have repressed emotions and thus be patient without losing love for the life you have. Don't hide anything when everyone is listening, and make sure there is always someone watching their actions so this doesn't repeat once solved. Love and hugs x
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Mar 26, 2022
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First of all if you are going through this,try and find the root cause of the problem from where this is coming. Mostly,the person who is going through the emotional blackmail doesn't even know in the first place that he/her is being emotionally blackmailed. You would think that 'yes,right' or start doubting yourself or you wouldn't feel comfortable in the situation what other person is making you go through. When you start second guessing or feel it in your guts or don't feel comfortable..take this as your sign and stand firm with your decisions. Make the other person understand why you don't agree with them..try to make them see your point of view. And if it still doesn't work out get help.
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