What should I do when my boyfriend ignores me?
Anonymous
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Dec 27, 2015
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You should never have to chase someone. If they care about you, they'll show you. Actions speak louder than words, so don't settle for less than what you deserve.
blissfulGrace86
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Jan 13, 2016
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You should distinguish if he does it on purpose or not ... if he is doing it on purpose then you must ignore him too cause you aren't a priority in his life
Queen214
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Jan 13, 2016
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Try to sit down and talk to him in a setting where he feels comfortable. Also don't demand a answer.
MindPalace93
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Jan 28, 2016
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There is a series of things you can do when a person you care about ignores you.
First of all it is important to let the person know about the situation so that they know where you are coming from. You can try and talk to the person about how you feel and what makes you feel that specifically. Good and clear communication between the two is key - most times people can't guess how we feel, so telling them about it solves part of the problem. Always remember that when you tell someone about your feelings they also have to respect that this is how you feel. There is no place for them to deny that they made you feel like that, because, basically, they did and you telling them are the proof of it. Equally, it is important for you to understand that they are not 100% responsible for your reaction, because you also have control over your emotions and are able to do something about it. (which you already are if you are asking this question :))
After a discussion has finished and both of you are aware of each others side of the situation, you can decide together how you can progress from there and whether it was a misunderstanding or there was a serious reason behind it.
In many cases where the issue occurred due to a misunderstanding or a clearly valid reason, the conversation ends there. Otherwise, if the discussion results to a mutual agreement that is not kept from one side it is important to form certain boundaries. For example, you explain to your boyfriend that you would like to spend time with him or him to pay more attention, and he agrees that he would also like to do something about it. Then he proceeds to not make an effort towards that agreement and keeps going in the same way. In that case, it is your choice to decide how important it is to you to have his attention and company and whether you can compromise that or need to take other steps like walk away from the relationship.
In a healthy relationship both the people involved need to be satisfied in each other's company most of the time. There are various reasons why that may not happen at times, so it's always a good idea to have an open and clear discussion about each other's feelings.
I hope that helps! :)
Good luck!
ListenerEvan
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Jan 29, 2016
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Make it clear how you feel but first ask yourself "do I listen to him?" Think about how important listening is as a quality in someone.
Anonymous
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Feb 3, 2016
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Bad things or thoughts happens to us when we proceed to great things . we need to skip those thoughts and move forward .
Anonymous
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Feb 5, 2016
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First you should approach them and let them know you're feeling ignored and hurt. Ignoring someone can be a sign of rejection and it is very damaging in relationships.
Anonymous
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Feb 10, 2016
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You could talk to him about it, and try to covey how you feel when he ignores you. If he doesn't seem to care about your feelings, you may want to get out of that relationship.
kindForest39
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Mar 23, 2016
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Evaluate the relationship, maybe you both need space, maybe you have said something to upset them, or maybe it is coming to end, or he could just be busy the best thing to do is to go in with a clear calm head and sort things out face to face so you can both express how you feel and you can both reach a conclusion, and that will also stop you hating each other.
LizardPerson
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Jun 8, 2016
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Tell him how that makes you feel. Communication really is key. Being ignored is a very hard thing to deal with. Maybe he doesn't realize he is doing it and is genuinely busy. Just have a conversation with him, preferably face to face, and tell him what's up.
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