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How do you tell your friend that you disagree with them without hurting their feelings?

Profile: DaisyDaph
DaisyDaph on Jan 22, 2021
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People can have different opinions and that's completely fine. It's what helps us accept each other's differences and learn new things as well. When you disagree with a friend, your first instinct might be to show them that you have a different opinion/point right away. However, one way in doing so without hurting their feelings is to first try and understand or acknowledge what their opinion is and then mention your side like so: "But it could also be looked at this way..." or "It could also be like this...". That way you don't shut down what they think, you include your side as well. This way, they won't feel misunderstood.
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Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 20, 2016
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I tell them "This is my personal opinion. Take it with a grain of salt, and take it or leave it! But that is just me, and you are you."
Profile: Nilo1602
Nilo1602 on Sep 8, 2016
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You have to let them know that even if you disagree with them, you still understand their point of view and wont judge them for thinking different.
Profile: CharlieMorningstar
CharlieMorningstar on Sep 10, 2016
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You can agree to disagree. For me, I say something along the lines of, "While I value your opinion, I can't say I share it. And that's okay, we don't have to agree on everything. How about we agree to disagree and switch topics?"
Profile: donsbumpyroad
donsbumpyroad on Sep 10, 2016
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To tell someone something that you know will be hard for them to hear you need to create a sandwich. Begin the conversation by telling them something you appreciate about them. Then make the comment. Afterwards give them a different positive statement.
Profile: truthSeeker71
truthSeeker71 on Oct 16, 2016
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I say, "That's interesting, I can see how why you might see it like that. I feel a little differently about it myself. It's amazing how differently we can all see things." I find if I don't try to push my viewpoint people don't get defensive so much. It's okay for us to see things differently.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Oct 20, 2016
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Talking and not yelling. If they ain't smart enough to understand calmly your point of view, then nothing will ever do.
Profile: Clarebear117
Clarebear117 on Nov 17, 2016
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Just tell them that you respect their opinion but yours is different from theirs. Don't be afraid to say what you feel!
Profile: greatfulUnicorns25
greatfulUnicorns25 on Jan 30, 2017
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I think that the best solution is always honesty. Your friend almost will always find out what you're 'hiding', it's usually best to hear it from you directly even if they have a different opinion.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 31, 2017
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Depending on the subject matter, your friends should be able to take criticism without it being an issue. If it's a particularly sensitive topic, have discretion. "Hey friend! There's no easy way to say this but I don't quite agree with you on this topic. I care for you and want to help, so here's why I disagree..." Show them your compassion and that you're being supportive. If the friend is in need of tough love, "Look. You're completely wrong. It's not cool that you think this way. I want to talk to you about how we can fix this". See which approach works best for you!
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