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How do you tell your friend that you disagree with them without hurting their feelings?

Profile: ilovellamas1234
ilovellamas1234 on Jan 1, 2021
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We are all individuals meaning we have different tastes, styles, opinions, etc. Disagreeing with somebody is totally normal and should not be something that would make somebody feel bad. If you disagree with someone, you can say it using positive words or just be polite about your response. For example, if somebody asks if you like a song they like ands you do not, a great response would be "It is not my favorite song but i appreciate you showing it to me". Disagreements will come up in work, school or even at home. Knowing how to positively respond to something you disagree with is important! Try a few scenarios in your head if you are unsure and put the person in your shoes to see what type of response you would want from them!
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Profile: StassieJones
StassieJones on Jan 13, 2021
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Just said it, "I don't agree with you". I feel like to answer this appropriately I need more information. What are you guys disagreeing on? If it's petting dumb things then who cares? People, friends, partners, family members aren't suppose to agree on everything. That's cult mentality. But if you guys are disagreeing on things that go against your values then that's another story. To answer you question with the little context I have to go off of, I would say exactly what you already said. "I don't agree with you, but don't let that hurt your feelings". People want reassurance, so let them know ya'll are still friends but just don't see eye to eye on this one thing.
Profile: niceRainbows39
niceRainbows39 on Jan 24, 2021
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This is actually a fairly simple concept, so you're in luck here. It's okay to disagree with a friend, but you definitely don't want to hurt their feelings by disagreeing. We can do this by respectfully voicing our disagreement. For example, instead of saying, "you're wrong, I disagree with that completely," you could say something such as, "I respect your opinion and I understand why you think that, but I disagree because..." It's important that you tell your friend that you respect and understand their opinion, as this makes it a positive interaction rather than a negative one. Good luck!
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 28, 2021
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Tell them your feelings and why you feel the way you do about a certain thing. be honest and say i don't mean to offend you but this is mu opinion and i hope you respect it as i respect yours. It is important to be honest with others as well as respecting them as well. It is okay to disagree because no one thinks alike and everyone has a different personality and mentality. Just be honest and true to your beliefs. it is okay to disagree because we are all different individuals. we can still be friends and disagree
Profile: TheHopefulArtist2022
TheHopefulArtist2022 on Feb 4, 2021
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I usually try to understand where they are coming from. Instead of aggressively telling them I disagree with them, I try to frame it as " I understand where you're coming from, but I see it differently..." or something along those lines. This makes the conversation to continue as a healthy and mature one, instead of developing to be disrespectful. Also, at the end of the conversation, I assure them that although we don't agree on some topics, our relationship is unaffected by our differences. This has helped me to have hard conversations without jeopardizing my friends feelings or our friendship.
Profile: TheListener12345
TheListener12345 on Feb 20, 2021
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I dont think you have to worry about their feelings being hurt unless you are being rude, as long as you approach it with a positive attitude most people do not get their feelings hurt if you have a difference of opinion. So if you and your friends disagree about something that is a sensitive topic like religion or politics, you should always understand they have the right to their opinion and you have the right to your own. If you show that you respect their opinion, or beliefs then they will hopfully respect that you have your own thoughts as well
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Feb 26, 2021
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I try to tell what I think and don't be passively aggressive. I like sarcasm and irony, but what feels better is to reacting immanently and just simply saying what I think. Most often, when the partner in talk is intelligent, they would agree or at least assume my point of view without any problem. With more insecure or stubborn people it at least get with accepting my way of thinking and doesn't cause any trouble at all. It takes assertiveness but unexpectedly it's most often socially granted. What is different is trying to convince someone to the own point.
Profile: KitKatriona
KitKatriona on Mar 14, 2021
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It is important to fully listen to your friend's opinion and acknowledge their feelings. Be honest with the fact that you are having an honest and open conversation, and that respectfully you must disclose that you disagree and are happy to explain why. Acknowledge their feelings and that their opinion is valid, however you disagree and have to be honest about that in order to have an honest friendship with mutual respect. Any friend should be able to deal with this so long as both feelings are calmly and openly expressed, and the there is time to heal or cool down when necessary.
Profile: Chris1213
Chris1213 on May 19, 2021
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I have personally struggled with expressing how I feel to my friends because I felt like they would be angry if they were to find out. I always wanted to keep the peace and would ignore how I felt. However, I have realized through experience that a true friendship means that you can be honest with the other person. It is important that you are able to express how you feel as much as the other person is able to. It does not make you a bad friend, and you can do so respectfully in a non-confrontational way. This may be easier said than done, but it comes with recognizing what you want out of a friendship. Being direct does not mean being confrontational, and problems can certainly be resolved in an open, honest way (and can even allow you to understand the other person better)!
Profile: JustPiscesThings
JustPiscesThings on May 28, 2021
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The best way to start is to know that you are fully understanding their point of view first, and repeating it back. Then, being honest and saying that you aren't quite sure that you would make the same choice in their shoes. If they begin to get defensive, reaffirm that you see their line of reasoning, but you think that something else might make them feel better in the long run. At the end, though, you have to realize that it is entirely their decision to make, and you need to make sure that they know that you will support them, regardless of whether you think it is the best decision for them or not.
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