What do I do if my husband and I can't agree on how to raise our children?

That is quite normal. Couples often don't agree. The crucial factor is whether you can negotiate and come to an agreement which is ok for both of you and which both of you are willing to implement

When I was married to my son's father, we butted heads quite a bit about how to raise our son, deal with his behavioral issues, etc. I subscribed to the "attachment parenting" philosophy, while he wanted to go a more traditional route. The compromise my ex-husband came up with was that I would raise our son until he was 13, and then he would take over. I agreed, knowing that this was a ridiculous idea, but it gave me free reign to raise my son as I saw fit. Ten years later, my son is an amazing, funny and wonderful boy. He still has some behavioral issues, but for the most part, he's a delight. Despite the warnings that co-sleeping, paying attention to his needs and being respectful of his feelings would make him a spoiled brat, it turns out that just the opposite is true. My story, however, is probably unusual. Here are my thoughts for what others might do in this situation: 1. Write out your parenting philosophy/ies, trying to be as specific as possible (for this behavior, I'd use "x" method). 2. Come together and present to each other what you have written. 3. For each behavior, discuss why one method might be better than another for YOUR child/children, keeping in mind that every child has his/her own personality and ways of doing things. Some methods will be more productive than others. 4. Try to find common ground. 5. If you can't come to a compromise during the discussion, perhaps you could target specific problematic behaviors (such as whining) and try both methods of dealing with it. See if one works better than the other or if perhaps a combination of methods is more effective. 6. If all else fails, find a parenting class you can both attend. Sometimes a third party can help suggest ways of raising your child that neither of you thought of. It is important to present a united front if at all possible. Children need consistency. Raising a child is trial and error sometimes. They don't come with manuals, unfortunately, so you and your spouse will have to write your own. :) Good luck!

This happens to me and my wife all the time. You have to consider the past, of each parents upbringing and the set of rules they were brought up with. My dad bought me a motorcycle when I was 4; and now my own son is 7 and I am still not able to get him one. My wife and I are at a standstill. With most other issues, we discuss and reach some compromise. Currently I have proposed to let my son start go-carting, and next year we will review getting him a motorbike.

You agreed on having children, but there was no implicit agreement that you'd agree on all the decisions it takes to raise a family. Your family and your ability to work through disagreement w/ your husband is far more important than the outcome of any one decision along the way.

You should sit down and talk to them, try to explain your points and listen to his and try to settle on things you can both agree on. It's important to see the other side of things too and to not attack someone by telling that they are wrong. It should be a combined effort.

Parenting is based all on compromise. My wife and I are always butting heads about how to raise our son. The best way to handle this indifference is simply communicate both of views and compromise by putting together both ideas. That will also help you both as a couple.

Communicate it with him in a lovely way.tell him that he is a good father and you support and trust his judgement but explain to him why you think a particular issue should be handled in a different way.

Its very common for spouses to disagree on how to raise children, both the husband and wife were raised differently. If there is a stale mate in how to raise your children, try to compromise, take a little advice from your husband and he take a little advice from you. Some things may work better than you think, and other things may not. Raising children is difficult, being a united in the parenting can make it a bit easier. Talk to each other early and often about the decisions you both want to make on raising your children. It will be ok in the long run if you and your husband disagree on some things, but make sure you agree on whats most important to you both. Having happy and healthy children.

I would try to listen to what the husband has to say and then I would put down my points and agree on terms to abide by to help my child grown in the best way. This shall reduce the stress among husband and wife and also both will be satisfied that they are giving the best education. May be I can take the subjects related to education and home chores and my husband can teach him sports and other extra curricular activities and we shall not interfere in each other’s activities. This will help our child develop a balance which will be beneficial for his growth th and development.