What do I do if I suspect my child or teen has been or currently is being sexually abused?

Hello, I sincerely hope your child hasn't been abused in any way, whether it be sexually, emotionally or physically but if you do suspect then its much better to be safe than sorry. Ive been sexually abused numerous times and I have not told my parents yet because I dealt with the situations appropriately.. but speaking from first hand experience, its not easy at all to tell my parents about what happened because I do not want to burden them. I think that is the biggest issue for me, and the second issue would be fear of them blaming me for spending time with these people when they told me not to and hurting them after all that they sacrificed for me. Personally, I was much more comfortable telling friends rather than family simply because I knew it wouldnt impact my friends emotionally as much as it would hurt my family. So I felt that it was a win win situation, I could get the relief I needed, but I could also be sure to appear fine and stay strong for the people I loved dearly. My parents havent picked up on anything because I hide it pretty well, I only told my sisters because I found out that I fell pregnant and even then it was so hard, my older sister really noticed that my demeanor changed, I didnt ever want to get out of bed, I was more closed up and didnt like to have conversations that lasted longer than 10 mins because I didnt want to cry in front of anyone. Talking to your child could potentially help, but I think it would be easier for your child to open up if they have siblings or someone who you trust that is close to your child and your child feels comfortable with who is close to their age. In the beginning its difficult because self hatred and self blaming overcomes the victim of sexual assault, but not always, I told someone about what happened within 2 days but I told friends (the wrong friends who werent supportive). The most I can say and suggest is to show your child that you are strong and you are able to deal with what happened without blaming them or getting dramatic by showing your concern for them, but before you do that I would probably suggest asking one your other children if they know anything about whats happening with the child that you think is being sexually abused. Although your children might cover up for the child who is abused purely because they promised not to tell anyone, you can see by the way the react or respond to your question whether or not they are telling the truth. All the best

Talk to them. There is no replacement for someone trying to genuinely hear a child out in times of need. And most importantly listen to the without ifs and buts.

If you notice a change in behavior that makes you suspect abuse you might want to try and address it directly with your child. If this does not work try to consult a professional.

It is important that you approach with delicacy as this may feel uncomfortable... But if the symptoms and behavior point out to that you could have the talk in the comfort of your home and be approachable