What are some ways to discipline my child without "spanking"?

Don't give a lecture. Just don't. We children have short attention spans. Trust me. Be kind and use reverse psychology. In a way, dont restrict too much of anything. Use summer school if they dont like summer school as a way to follow through. Discipline needs to go for independence. Teach them the reality and independence or else forever, they won't learn for sure with restrictive manner. -summer school -extended homework periods -cut of money (good for teaching about work life. dont do good job, get cuts) -cut their use on wifi during homework time. If needed, send them to the library to do that. Old school works perfectly. -trust them.

I personally don't think spanking is 100% a bad way to discipline children, but I think it should be the very last resort. The first thing I would do is to understand, and think from my child's point of view why would she want to make the mistake she made. I would kneel or squat down to my child's height, look into her eyes and ask "Why?" in a soft and concern manner. Encourage her to speak out, if I feel there's more to it, I will keep asking questions in a non pushy way. I think this way you can gain the trust of your child. Then explain to the child why is it unacceptable to commit the mistake. If the child doesn't understand, then use her/him as an example to the situation and ask how would the child feel. It's more reasoning and accepting the reasoning than anything else.

You can always take away certain privileges for a day, and if it keeps happening, increase the number of days. You can send them to their room for the day, or have them not be able to have friends over for a week or so.

Set rules and standards of behavior from an early age. Make sure that your kid always understands why they are being punished. It is also important to understand where your kid is developmentally. An infant isn’t trying to hurt you when he bites; a toddler isn’t being naughty when she breaks something out of curiosity. Know what your child is capable of understanding and doing.

Every single child is different and what works for one will be different for another. You have to figure your own way of what works for each child and stick with it.

Talking to him as a person and not a child usually helps. Using a stern voice can discipline the child, but make sure they know that it is because you love them.

An alternative to spanking is a reward chart for when they are well behaved as this is an incentive to better behaviour for example a star chart . Then when they have 10 stars a small reward would be rewarded. It would empahsise that good behaviour is better and give them a sense of achievement also

Treating your child with respect is the first step of effective discipline. Spanking does not fall into this category.

Some effective methods could be grounding your child by taking away toys, talking to your child about what they did and why it was wrong, putting them in time out, etc. Remember that the goal of the punishment is to make sure they wont do the behavior again so do what works most effectively for your child.

The best way would be to talk it out to your child and make them understand what's wrong. So through this, they would be able to know why it is wrong. Other ways would be to making them to fix their mistakes and giving them a small punishment without hurting them. Through this way, they may understand it better.For example, if your child regularly spills food knowingly, you should try making your child clean the mess and not give a chocolate or something which your child usually used to eat as a reward. This would make the child of the mistake and how to correct it.