My partner and I can't agree about how to bring up our child, what should I do?
Stephen373
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Dec 27, 2014
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Ultimately raising a child is going to require compromise. You and your partner should sit down together, civilly, and discuss all your options and explain why you feel why you do. You may not get exactly what you want every time but a good partnership will come to a good conclusion. It's important to remember that the welfare of the child is most important not who is right/wrong or who always gets their way, etc.
Okazaki
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Nov 2, 2014
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Think about what is best for the child, never try to force your own opinions or beliefs on him/her. Try to find a middle ground with your partner.
Surrender
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Jan 8, 2015
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I suggest you settle on a compromise? Both of your opinions are important. See if there's anything you do agree on, and start from there.
GoodGuyChad
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Oct 28, 2014
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You probably agree on many aspects of parenting. What are those? What are your goals? Chances are you agree on many goals but disagree on a few methods.
Anonymous
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Oct 29, 2014
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You should sit together and discuss about the issue , try to compromise and accept each others plan, with this you people can find out a solution. But you people need to sit on one table for the sake of your child
Anonymous
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Oct 30, 2014
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I would suggest a meeting with a mediator. If you really can't agree, it may be better to get support with this situation.
DesertForBreakfast
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Nov 2, 2014
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Well, they're your partner! Living with someone, you have to find common ground in all major decisions. Such is especially true when raising a child. If you both feel so strongly about one facet of the child's upbringing you should each make a "presentation" that highlights the benefits, and the negatives of each respective opinion/option.
calmsteve
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Nov 2, 2014
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There has to be some kind of common ground. you both have to learn how to negotiate your side of the argument and come to conclusions that benefit the child.
HeresSomeoneWhoCares
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Nov 7, 2014
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You should have a warming up conversation,, both sides should give opinions and understand each other
bubblingKitty76
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Jan 5, 2015
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Hi. Congratulations on being a parent. I know that this can create a lot of tension, as both of you want what is best for the child. There are many "schools of thought" on how to bring your child - being a best-friend kind of parent, imposing authority, supporting and pushing, teaching by example etc. You probably have two different mindsets and most times it's not confusing for a child to have one friendly parent and one supporting and pushing to achieve parent. Reading a few books about the stage your child is in might help (not to few to make you feel like you didn't prepare, not to many so that you will not get totally confused).So in some cases, having it both ways is an option - you come with your school of thought, he comes with his, other times compromising is best. The way I understand compromise is this - we talk about it, bring arguments and meet in the middle ground (we can celebrate both muslim and christian holidays for example). Compromise is not "I don't want to argue anymore so we will do it your way". But yea, don't worry, as long as you two do not argue in front of your child about decisions regarding him/her, two different approaches will not confuse the child too much.
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