I'm scared of becoming the kind of parent my parents were, how do I avoid it?

You know the answer to your question. Why? Because you already know you dont want to be like your parents, so you've identified their flaws. Now don't do what they used to to do, just be conscious of you actions all the time and aware of what you do.

it sounds like you are afraid of following the same steps of your parents. That shows that you are a compassionate person

It could pay to do some investigation. Find out exactly what it was that you disliked about the parenting style you were brought up with and why do you dislike it? Why did your parents do it the way they did? Questions and investigations like this sometimes help us to get a clearer picture of the kind of parent we do want to be. It can help us deal with the way we were brought up, sort out some of the negative feelings so that we can concentrate on the present moment. Even after a little investigation and discovery and growth as a person and parent, you may still occasionally caught yourself saying "I sound just like my mom/dad!" and that's okay. Nobody's perfect, your parents weren't and you won't be either. Being willing to learn from your mistakes will go a long way in parenthood (and in life). If you love your child and have their best interest at heart, you will be well on your way to be the best kind of parent your child needs. You will do just fine! Remember: there is no such thing as a perfect parent. If you are constantly going to try and be perfect, you are going to miss most of this wonderful adventure called Parenthood!

At first, you just have to realize who you are yourself. Are you your parents? If you aren't, then you just have to work towards being yourself, instead of always thinking about how they're acting

Really there is no same parent. Each parent does their job in one way or another, and you will end up parenting in a way that fits you. Your children will be lovely, as long as you remember to love, support, and Sid with them on every if not almost every thing they do.

You just become your own person. Only you can pave your own path - you don't have to become the kind of parent your parents were. Have you discussed this worry with a counselor?

The easiest way to not become the kind of parent your parents were is to be your own person. You'll need to find out what interests you, and strive to think about decisions before you make them.

I was also scared of that..but I am just like my Mother. My Mom always yelled,yelled and never punished. Which I do, with my son. It's very hard for me to make him take a time out, I just yell to try to get my point across. When I realize I'm doing this, I immediately try to calm myself down and try a different way to approach the punishment...but I was RAISED that way...and maybe that's the problem. I'm just so used to that from my childhood that I carry that in to motherhood. Just breathe, and think...what is wrong here and how do I fix it?

If you find yourself acting the way your parents did, snap out of it. But under no circumstances should you let your past experiences with your parents dictate how you yourself parent. You'll be depriving your children a lot of emotions!

Just try to be the best parent you can be, there's no wrong or right way to parent, you just gotta go with what your gut tells you