How do I get my son to get a job?
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Updated: Nov 30, 2021
joyfulWords82
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Jun 20, 2017
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It's pretty hard to get older children to do things. I would encourage him by talking to him about what he wants to do with his life and if he has any plans. Then I would share how a job can give him some independence
Anonymous
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Apr 22, 2015
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A job can be a great way for your son to show some responsibility in his life. You can try to find things that he loves to do, and try to find a job that will incorporates things he loves to do.
Sya
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Nov 10, 2015
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First understand what he likes, i mean his interest. And start talking him about it and show him that you support what he loves. After that start suggesting jobs that share his interest. For example if he loves physics, say "how about becoming an engineer?" at this point he will start loving the idea and he will start searching for the job. But if he is not responding and avoiding to get a job just because he is too lazy to do so,then you have to show him the other side by telling him "im not going to pay you, you should start paying for yourself" My parents used the first option and it worked for me i am an engineer and i love it haha.
FruityloveBubbles11
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Dec 21, 2015
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If you would like your son to get a job whether it's to support the family or for himself.
The best way is not to pressure them or push them into it.
It good too sit down when your son is feeling good and talk to him about what he thinks about a job.
Let him know that a job can offer a lot of experience and have an overall positive effect for him and help him meet a lot of people and it can actually be fun sometimes (depending on the job some jobs are more fun than others ) Talk about your own experiences about how you got a job and what it was like.
Be honest with him and let him know what factors motivated you to ask him to get a job.
Honesty goes a long way.
It can be a great chance for son and mother or son and dad or both to come closer together or work together as a team :-)
If these are difficult times let them know that getting through it together can be rewarding and their help would really help.
Be patient and loving
Anonymous
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May 15, 2017
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You have to be patient and not force. He has to want to do it. I found that by being loving and earning the trust of your son or daughter makes all the difference. It also helps if you yourself are a good role model for your kids. In most cases they will just do it due to the example you set by being a responsible parent. You must have their trust and they will do it on their own, and they will do it if you show how much you love them and care about their well being.
Anonymous
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Mar 13, 2018
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I would try to show him the advantages of having a job and tell him that it would make his life easier and that he needs to start being independent. Depending on his age, let him know that he needs to start learning how to earn the resources to support and take care of himself. After all, it's a part of growing up and assuming more responsibility. If you are currently helping him out (i.e. money, shelter, clothes, allowance), give him a little responsibility (i.e. you need to work because from now on you will be paying your own phone bill). Hopefully this motivates him! Best of luck
Chattytalker1
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Nov 30, 2021
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What I would do is explain to my son that he needs to get a job, for various reasons. State your reasons. Help your son explore is options with his skills, provide resources so your son can help himself find a job of interest. I would explain that it can be part-time, that you understand that he may have other obligations, (such as school) but he could work a few shifts a week, or maybe just weekends. Be honest as to why you want him to get a job. Do this without yelling or being demanding. Show some comfort and listening to your son.
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