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How can I tell my parents that I'm gay?

Profile: testsubjectsara
testsubjectsara on Jul 25, 2015
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When I came out to my mother as bisexual she didn't understand at all. She actually didn't talk to me for two weeks after telling me i wasn't lesbian. I brought my girlfriend home and my mom liked her. Honestly, just tell them, it's scary but it's worth it.
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Profile: joyfulBlueberry81
joyfulBlueberry81 on Jul 25, 2015
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For me it was easier to right a letter, so that I couldn't back out of it. Let your parents know it wasn't a choice and that this is who you are. If you think it could turn into a unhealthy or dangerous situation, sadly I recommend you don't come out until you have a stable income.
Profile: mxkaylxox
mxkaylxox on Jul 25, 2015
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All you can do is come right out and say it, make sure you're certain, and just be honest! Dont let them make you second guess yourself, and you may need to give them time to get use to the fact, and that's okay, but don't let them make you feel bad for being who you are!
Profile: MiraculousMermaid13
MiraculousMermaid13 on Jul 25, 2015
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Sit them down and ease into it, I don't think throwing it in the air is the best solution! If you think it would be easier telling the patent you think would be more accepting first and ask for them to help you get through to the other parent.
Profile: Dennis93
Dennis93 on Jul 26, 2015
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That's a tough question, that I have also had to experience. There is no better way than making sure you are on the right moment to tell your parents. Express a need for comfort, for simple things as a hug or a carress, and while you are closer and talking in a 'sweeter' way, try to find the strength within you to open up. Be brave and you can do it. Remember that, in the long run, it's worth it.
Profile: greenapples16
greenapples16 on Jul 26, 2015
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First of all, ask yourself if they are the first people you want to tell or not. If they are, then ask yourself on what their possible reactions will be. An example would be through telling news that you deem equally surprising and or will create a similar reaction. If it is positive, then go for it! If it's not... well then you have to weigh the pros and cons for coming out. For example, will they give you the ultimatum? Or will they accept you for who you are? The former question can be answered without coming out, such as through asking yourself how much your parents love you or how prone are they to change, to how open they are to the idea of the LGBT rights. In the case where they aren't the first people you want to tell, then I suggest telling more people about it first than your parents. This is because practice makes perfect. However, don't tell too many people to the point where they'll end up finding out from others instead of you! There's no worse way to piss off and hurt the people who raised you than to hide one of the most crucial parts of your identity.
Profile: BringMeTheBree
BringMeTheBree on Jul 29, 2015
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Telling your parents that you're gay is always a very tricky thing. I suggest just asking them to not freak out or anything and just try to understand you. When they sit down to talk be like "I've been questioning my sexuality and i think i'm gay.." and just wait for them to answer. we are always hoping that our parents support us. do what makes you happy. i wish you the best of luck!
Profile: Eris9325
Eris9325 on Jul 29, 2015
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You shouldn't be afraid. They are your parents and they love you. Plus, you are the one who knows if they are more strict or more accepting. You should take this in consideration before coming out. :)
Profile: Yagmurrp
Yagmurrp on Jul 29, 2015
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You say that 'This isn't my choice but I like boys not girls. I hope you understand me.' Maybe they understand you.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jul 29, 2015
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Sit down and come clean. I am in no position to give advice but I think it's the best thing to do..
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