Why do I get more anxious when someone tells me to calm down?
Anonymous
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Jan 26, 2015
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The pressure put on you to calm down from that person may cause even more stress, more anxiety. Plus, you may be distressed because you can't calm down.
YouveCatToBeKitten
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Feb 16, 2015
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Because they're not really helping you, they're just telling you what they want you to do. In order to calm down, they need to understan how you're feeling and help you figure out a solution.
PashT007
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Apr 16, 2015
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This may be the case because some people don't understand anxiety and they think of it as a small issue and it's not.
Anonymous
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Feb 9, 2016
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This is a perfectly normal and natural response in that kind of situation. Being told to calm down may make you feel like you're being invalidated or your fears/anxiety isn't being taken seriously, so it's not surprising you'll feel more anxious.
ImpossibleCube
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Nov 15, 2016
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Maybe it draws your attention towards your anxiousness : We sometimes react without knowing why, and when an external party points to it, it makes us more self-aware and thus makes it even harder for us to deal with the emotion. Hope this helped.
joyousears8
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Apr 15, 2015
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It's a natural reaction, most likely the person is doing the wrong things as they try to help you.
Anonymous
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Jun 29, 2015
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Sometimes when someone tells us to calm down, we can hear them getting nervous themselves, which can make the whole thing scarier.
And sometimes, the notion to calm down seems like it should be so incredibly simple, but it's not, so it can be anxiety-inducing if you feel that even after being told to calm down, you're not able to.
eternalPassion14
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Jan 19, 2016
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You start to think more about why you're not calm and then start worrying about not being calm, escalating the anxiousness
Anonymous
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Feb 15, 2016
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Maybe you feel like they are ''telling'' you how to feel, instead of helping you get through your anxious moment.
Anonymous
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Mar 14, 2016
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The reason is you might not know if it right or wrong and your afraid of taking the wrong path and wrong outcomes.
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