Why do I sometimes enjoy feeling sad?

Sadness can become a comfort zone. It becomes a place we know and is easy to stay there. We sometimes use sadness as an excuse to do things that hurt ourselves as well as others. To leave the sadness behind we need to actively want to leave it behind. It is difficult, it requires a lot of energy and attention, sometimes it needs help from a specialist. We are so used to being sad that we prefer to stay there than try new things that we are not used to and require more energy than we are willing to give.

It is comforting to feel sad because sometimes it is easier than feeling happy. Of course, it is normal to feel sad but when we let that build and find other reasons to be sad, it is hard to stop feeling that way. Having fun things to look forward to can help to get rid of those bad feelings even when if we don't want them to leave

So you know what it feels like when you feel joy! Without the different emotions life would be monotone. It's learning to notice emotions, acknowledge them and then let them pass that's important.

There is no one answer to the way we react to things, but sometimes we find joy in things that are common and comfortable.

Sometimes feeling sad helps me to explore what is going on. I can take my sadness and look at what I need to work on so I won't be sad. It's so easy to dwell on my sadness, but I choose to take it and work it for the better in my life. And sometimes I am too tired, so I let sadness sit for a little bit. In the end, it is up to me on how I'm going to deal with it. Do I let it take over, or do I take action by addressing the things making me sad, and reaching out to the resources that can help me.

Maybe it is better to let that feeling allow the person to know that it is there, these feelings are natural that something is wrong. Listening to it and sympathising can be the best remedy than pushing it away and hiding it under the carpet so to speak. or it is an “addiction” to unhappiness. Deep-rooted insecurity or lack of self-esteem may cause some people to feel undeserving of happiness. People who grew up with a parenting style characterized by excessive discipline and unrealistic expectations may have learned to equate unhappiness with love and success. Lifelong struggles with trauma or other negative experiences may fuel an unconscious desire to continually return to the status quo of unhappiness. Some people who seem comfortable in their misery actually may be suffering from an underlying mental health disorder. Some people pride themselves on realism, believing that being practical or realistic also means focusing on the negative.

I used to spend so much energy keeping myself from feeling any negative emotions, especially sadness or anxiety. I decided to start focusing on mindfulness and sitting with painful emotions. Now, I can truly say that I enjoy feeling sad when it comes. This is because I want to honor all of my emotions. When I push away something I'm afraid to feel, I am not being true to myself and I end up feeling worse. When I accept it and treat it with care and nurturing, I really start to get to know myself and feel stronger and better for it.

Feeling sad can often be painful. However, it is important to allow ourselves to feel sad rather than to attempt to ignore these emotions. If we ignore our emotions they may build up and we are unable to deal with them effectively. Many times we put too much pressure on ourselves to always feel happy. This is unrealistic and it is okay to feel sad sometimes. Sometimes allowing ourselves to feel sad helps us to understand and accept the feeling which is the first step towards finding peace. In this instance, I sometimes like to feel sad as it is freeing and accepting the feeling encourages me to seek out positive solutions such as discussing this feeling with a friend or family member.

Enjoying feeling sad doesn't necessarily mean you are inviting the experience, but once you are feeling it, it kind of validates what you are going through. Sometimes you might just want to sit with that feeling sad for a while instead of hearing people continuously telling you things like "It's not so bad" "people have it worse", etc. Your feelings are worthy of being acknowledged. Do you want to hang on to this feeling of sadness? Most likely not, but it is still better than numbing your feelings. That is another thing-if you often feel numb to your emotions, you may enjoy feeling them when you can, for a change. Anything to not feel numb.

I know I enjoy being sad because if anything, I honestly feel like it pulls me back to reality. I'm not sure why, or if it's only me, but when I'm happy for long periods of time, I feel selfish and guilty for feeling like this. Other people are suffering and here I am oh so filled with joy, but every time I'm sad, I think more about the people that don't have anything in their lives, that have trouble finding happiness. I don't know where I was going with this, but I know I'm not the only one who thinks like this, I hope.