Why do I feel fine throughout the day, but once I slow down and try to sleep I become sad?

At the end of the day I always feel exhausted having done battle with the day and all the challenges it presented. As I take those first few moments to slow down, I think back over the day and maybe realize there's things I should have or could have done or said better, maybe things I forgot. And what builds from that, together with the feeling of exhaustion, is a sense of regret or shame. Depending on what it is that starts that feeling it can sometimes be hard to shake to the point of affecting actually getting to sleep. But it's always important to remember that the day is now in the past, that we're not always going to be perfect and while we can reflect and learn some important lessons, tomorrow will need us bright and bushy tailed, ready to take on new opportunities and learn more about ourselves, the world and the people around us. And for that you're going to need to get some sleep! :)

Most of the time your feelings are occupied with your daily day routines. Your daily business and interactions helps to keep your inner thoughts and worries at bay. But when you slow down and unwind, there is a vacuum in your thoughts hence all your worries and sadness fills it up. Frankly speaking, Do Not worry or fear this change . It is a natural process a lot of us go through. Feelings of sadness is just like all emotions that we experience : joy , happiness, peace, anger, fear and so on. Let it come and go naturally. Don't fight it. Make yourself a nice cup of hot drink. put on some music, read a book and go to sleep. Before you actually go to sleep , maybe everyday ,you could spend about 5-10 minutes, reflecting on the day's activities and saying how grateful you are for 5 things related to you. A lot of the time our memories of good things that happens to us gets suppressed by sadness because we naturally are more bothered by it. Also is is a great idea, to talk to someone and solve the under lying issues that gives rise to the sadness.

Because you are more likely to think about tons of things more when you are in bed alone. You are too busy during the day to stop and think about problems but once its bed time it all comes out.

bceause that is when your body is the most relaxed and you just want to start thinking about everything and thought always spiral to avoid it you should read a book or meditate before your bedtime

Throughout the day you're surrounded my many distractions! Friends, activities, learning, all your stimuli are constantly active, I'd recommend finding a relaxing night time hobby, like read a nice positive book!

During the day your mind is occupied with daily activities. When you slow down and it's quite, suddenly your mind becomes very loud and that's when there is nothing to distract you from thinking about the thing that has been making you sad.

You could be keeping yourself busy enough throughout the day that you're not focusing on how you're feeling. That's how I used to be. Usually when I go to sleep, I have music playing or something similar to keep my mind distracted so I'm not focusing on my thoughts and how I feel and such. Maybe something like that would help.

If we stay busy we don't have time to marinate on the fact that we are alone, or other thoughts of sadness. However, when we lay down and there is nothing to do, such thoughts easily creeps into our minds. I have had this same issues for years. I have learned that although it seems a bit silly, if I listen to music and cuddle with a teddy bear, it helps.

That means you are having suppressed sad feelings. Try to figure out what could be causing you to feel sad. It could just be a lot of things in general, usually from the past. So try to recall various significant events that made you sad. Then try to look at things from a different perspective by telling yourself that it's okay because it's over and that you will be able to have many good days to look forward in the future.

Maybe it's not about the slowing down that makes you sad, but what's going on for you to make you feel sad. It could be a whole array of things going on that you're only processing once you stop and take time to wind down. When I was younger, I only used to cry about what was going on for me in my life at night. It was as if the calm and stillness at the end of the day caused me to think more about what was going on in my life, and express it in my own peace and quiet. No distractions, but just you and your mind. It might be an idea to try focus more when you do try to sleep but feel sad, what it is that could be making you feel so sad and work towards addressing it.