Why do I feel bad when someone does something nice for me, specially if they buy me gifts?

You may feel bad because you feel like you aren't getting them something in return for buying the gifts or because you feel selfish that you are getting all these gifts when no one else is or simply just not being used to getting gifts can make you feel bad because sometimes we feel like we don't deserve it.

As how it goes for my own likings, this may be due to your independent nature of being so adapted not to rely on others when it comes to self-care and empowerment. It takes practices so embrace this beauty step by step at your convenient quantum =]

Could be because you have a wall built around you and you may not believe that ppl could actually do good things for you.and it may make you feel indebted.

This may be because you are unable, or are restricted in your ability to do something nice for that person in return. It's always nice to be treated well, and if anything, take this opportunity to think about how much happier we would be if we all paid each other compliments and bought little gifts of appreciation for each other. You don't have to buy gifts of course, many acts of kindness can cost nothing!

Sometimes people feel bad after receiving an unexpected gift from someone close to them, either because a) they feel they owe them something in return and aren't sure of what to give that would make up for what they received or b) Its an act of kindness in which they are unsure of how to repay.

When someone does something nice for us, we may feel bad about if we don't truly think we deserve it. We may not fully believe that we are worth receiving the love, the gift, or the help. These feelings could be more obvious to us, where we admit that we "don't deserve it", or they may be more subtle where we find ourselves doubting "why would anyone want to do this for ME? I'm nothing special!"

I personally dont do well with getting gifts because I feel like I either dont deserve them or I worry about having to give something back, because it feels like the right thing to do. Sometimes its difficult to accept someone may want to give me something, because it feels like there should be some reason. On Christmas and birthdays, I have a hard time with gifts because although I'm so grateful and I make sure they know that, I always find myself thinking either: "I wish they hadn't spent the money on me for something I dont *really* need, when they could have used it for something else," or "I haven't done anything to merit getting a gift." I have to remember that just as I feel good giving other people gifts, they also may feel the same, and gifting is a beautiful thing to do amongst people you love.

Often times when someone does something nice for us, we feel the need to return that kindness. When a gift or nice act is done spontaneously it is difficult to return, making us feel guilty as we can't do the same at the moment. The reason you're most likely feeling more guilty about gifts is that they actually hold some form of monetary value; something had to of actually been given to provide this item for you. Another reason is that you can also feel yourself undeserving for whatever reason that may be. Just know that whoever is being kind has solely good intent. ^^

I think it’s because you don’t want to be seen as selfish or as a person who is giving and would not like to receive things back. This is probably because, in my opinion, people would like to be seen as more modest and more of like the people who are the ones that give and don’t get back because that makes them look better, since some people might rather receive than get. This is because receiving gifts from others makes the person feel more fulfilled and loved, since it’s one of the 5 ways to show someone you love and / or care about them.

For the mindset of ' i am not worthy being treated like this ' , ' Now i must do sumthing to return this kindness , what a hassle' or ' What is this guy trying to get from this. There must b sumthing behind this'. It's kinda hard for me to believe that people doing nice things just out of ' Kindness ' . It's just that rare. ' Gifts ' or ' Being Nice ' which directed at me were mostly for rewarding my deeds. I am so used to have it that way, so many times that i doubt there is any of them comes with 'Sincerity' in it.