Why do I feel bad when someone does something nice for me, specially if they buy me gifts?

Maybe you just don't want to troubl.e the person, or you don't think you're "worthy" of it. Honey, you are worth it, trust me. If someone does something nice, express your gratitude and smile knowing that they did it because your an amazing person.

Sometimes, I'll feel badly if someone buys me gifts or does nice things for me, because I'll feel like I'm not worthy of receiving their kindness. I'l look down on myself.

You may feel bad because you prefer to be independent, and people being nic to you makes you feel like they are taking that away. Another reason could be that you don’t trust their kindness, and believe they have an alterior motive for being so nice.

My opinion, I think the idea is instilled in our head that usually, and I'm not saying this about everyone, when something is given it's usually because something is expected in return unless it's a birthday gift. Whether it be consciously or subconsciously. So usually when I feel bad when someone does something nice for me, it's because I am not equipped to give anything back at the moment.

Because you feel like you don't deserve the time, money, or effort that it takes for someone to give that gift to you. This comes from toxic thinking and you should know and realize that you are worth it and that those people love you and cherish you

I have similar feelings, for me, they stem from a feeling of low-self esteem, as if I am not worthy of the gift. I help myself by reminding myself that the person is giving me this thing because they want to and because they see something in me. Sometimes our view of our self-worth is inconsistent with what other people think of us and that dissonance can cause distress. I would just remember that you are worthy of peoples time, energy, and care and that THEY WANT to give you this gift whatever it may be. Take care, Ency.

The reason why you and others feel bad when someone does something nice for you is that you have this feeling called unworthiness. When someone feels unworthy, in the presence of an act of kindness, the action itself acts as a reminder of your own inner value, which is something that unworthiness consistently tries to deny or reject - the very fact that you matter. While we might have the tendency to link unworthiness to actions or outcomes that might bring you shame and/or guilt, once you realize that you matter, the light of love that dwells in you allows everything to be forgiven with compassion, and see the act of kindness as a catapult to not only what you can receive, but also what your soul is ready to give.

When we feel uncomfortable when someone does something nice for us, it's usually because we aren't used to doing nice things for ourselves or, on some level, don't think we are worthy of nice gestures or presents. This can also happen if you feel you haven't been accepted by your friends or family growing up, or if you've suffered losses in the past that have made you insecure or maybe you now find it difficult to trust others. Practicing self-love, positive thoughts, affirmations and accepting ourselves with all our flaws and virtues will make you more open to love and attention from other people! Good luck!

For the fear that this nicety may not be there tomorrow. Gifts sometimes create a kind of bonding with the giver. Sometimes, we feel bad because we become receiver.

Sometimes it is hard to accept gifts, especially when you have had a lifetime of not receiving that many. It makes us uncomfortable, when really we should just enjoy the moment, the kind thought, and say thank you.