Why do I feel bad when someone does something nice for me, specially if they buy me gifts?

I often feel the same way, but I like to think of it as being grateful. I completely understand your position and maybe reflecting on your own experiences will help answer that question better. Next time you feel the same way, think about who gave you the present and what emotions you feel on receiving it. How do you think the giver of the gift feels? How do you feel when you are the giver of the gift? Is there any underlying happiness of guilt when you receive the gift? Think about these questions and you can find the answer on your own :)

Personally, I feel like that whenever someone does anything nice for me because I had grown up with the idea that I did not deserve to be treated that way. Everytime someone had done something nice for me (for example, gave me my phone back, they would constantly remind me that I didn't deserve it, or that I am too spoiled to truly appreciate it. I realized later in life that this is not the case, that I did deserve good things to be given to me or happen to me, and that I was not too spoiled to truly appreciate their value; I just had trouble communicating that appreciation...

You may this because you may be feeling guilty that you're not 'giving back' - however, I'm sure they'll be glad to know you appreciate what they do for you! Even if you may not be able to buy them something in return (and nor do you need to), expressing your thanks and appreciation goes a long way, and will positively affect the relationship between you two (and possibly already has). It may be difficult to rid yourself of this guilt, but just know that this gift-giving does not have to be a mutual occurrence, and not a mandatory part of friendship.

There can be a lot of answers to this. A few common ones are. . . You do not feel comfortable with the gift giver in a friendly or romantic way. You do not feel as if you are someone who is worth the time and effort or thoughtfulness of a gift because of low self esteem. You are not comfortable with the amount of money and thus energy put into the gift since you are not financially stable and the amount makes the gift more intimidating. You have had past trauma with a situation where you might have received a surprise gift and then have been told that you need to do something afterwards in order to earn the gift that was given which is abusive behavior.

When you receive a gift or something nice from someone, you may be thinking to yourself things like: "I don't deserve this" or "I am not worthy of love and appreciation." For my 21st birthday, my family threw a surprise birthday party at a buffet restaurant, and many of my good friends and acquantainces showed up. They gave me gifts like earphones and some fancy robe thing. Yet, my 21st birthday party was the most depressing point of my life. I cried alone in the shower after faking joy in front of my friends and family that night. That was because I told myself negative things such as, "I was a waste of time," "Everyone came because they were invited, and not because they wanted to," and "I didn't deserve the party tonight." Perhaps you may be saying similar things to yourself for your situation too. It may be wise to challenge each thought by finding evidence that both supports and refutes each thought, then coming up with a more realistic way of seeing things.

This is a great question! I think there could be a variety of reasons that you may feel this way. Maybe something happened in your past that caused your thinking to change. I think this is a common feeling though! Try not to beat yourself up too much over it. I think what you can do is try to rewire your thinking. When someone gets you a gift, remind yourself that they are doing it for you because they care about you! Maybe when you start to feel guilty, just remind yourself that they care about you and you are worth it!

Feeling bad when someone does something nice for you may stem from several causes. You may be experiencing a form of guilt that someone did something nice for you or went out of their way for you. Your feeling bad might, alternatively, have something to do with your self concept or feelings of self worth. To better assess why you are feeling this way, consider asking yourself "Do I feel bad because they put forth effort to do this for me, do I feel bad because I feel undeserving of it, or is it something else?" This will help you gauge whether you feel bad for their effort (being considerate of someone else) or because you feel you don't deserve people doing nice things for you (low self worth), or whether it's something else altogether.

Why do you feel bad? If it's a form of bribery , yes of course you are justified to feel guilty. But if it's just a gift someone you like or love maybe a family member or a friend, then why do you feel guilty? Do you feel obliged to them? Do you feel you do not deserve the attention and love they are showing you? Do you feel you are imposing on them ? If you take a minute to reflect , you might realise where your feelings are coming from. If it's a gift given out of love then accept it gracefully cause you deserve the love and are precious to that person. You are worthy and valuable too.

In my experiences, I often feel as though I'm a burden, particularly when congruable things, like gifts come into play. Knowing that someone spent money on me actually feels like I'm undeserving of their love or friendship. When someone is being nice, I instantly assume they're just faking it to be nice, and that issue often stems from trust issues. So, look into your past, and see if you notice any point where someone broke your trust, or where you lost friends. It's hard sometimes to feel like you're enough for someone, and this is just a subconscious manifestation of your own feelings of inadequacy.

Its more of the feeling of, "I don't deserve this" or "Is it supposed to be this great?", "Is it worthy enough?" etc. It's ur mind playing tricks on u. Generally, people feel this way because they believe that they are burdens to others and don't deserve to get gifts or have nice things done for themThe looks on the recipient's face when they open their gift provides a psychological lift to other person and triggers the release endorphins into their brain, producing the same euphoric feelings of pleasure and joy we can experience after a tough workout or when we're falling in love. Some people have self-esteem issues or aren't used to people doing anything nice for them so they will reject any gift. They may feel like they haven't done anything to deserve the gift, even if the person giving the gift feels otherwise