Why do I feel bad when someone does something nice for me, specially if they buy me gifts?

It is lovely that you are receiving gifts and someone is doing nice things for you. I understand about feeling bad and even it being hard to accept something from someone. From my experience I learnt it was to do with it's had to do with self-worth. I didn't feel worthy enough to accept gifts or nice things for me as my first thought would be, "Why are they doing this for me?" I realised that made a big impact on myself and also the person doing a lovely thing for me. I missed out on the appreciation and being grateful that someone wants to give me because I felt as though I never deserved it in the first place. I would recommend trying to say "Thank you" and imagine how you would feel if you did something lovely for someone and how you would react to it.

Hi there! I'm glad you asked such a great question. I believe this also goes to many people out there who also feel like this. From my experiences, I believe it is the fact that we don't want anything or expect anything from you and when you get a surprise, it makes us feel bad about not getting them gifts or making a big deal about those things. It can be that you value your friendships or relationships and their presence is the best gift. When others physically and directly appreciates you, that makes you feel like. you should've also done it too.

Taking a step back to access yourself can be helpful. If someone gives you a gift, be grateful! They did this out of love and that says a lot about how they view you! Learning to love yourself is a process. It doesn't happen overnight. Self love and compassion takes practice but it's well worth the work. Being kind to others comes easier then being kind to yourself. You are just as important as the ones you love. Putting time aside for self care and self love is a daily practice that shouldn't be ignored. Becoming your most authentic self is a lifetime achievement award! Love you like we love you!

I feel bad when someone does something nice for me, or buys me gifts because I do not value my self, and I feel their gift or kindness is worth more to anything but me, because I am afraid of being brought up emotionally exposes me to being brought down. And I really dislike when something, or someone brings me down. So to avoid being brought down, I am hesitant to be brought up in anyway. Accepting someone's kindness or gifts is accepting happiness. And I feel that if I have happiness, I am exposed to losing that happiness, and falling down into sadness, regret, and depression. I cannot have nice things, because I fear the absence of nice things. I fear having something, because it may be taken away. If I never have, I can never have not.

Maybe because you feel that you should have gotten something for them in return since they went through the trouble to get you something

Maybe you believe that you don't deserve it, or you feel guilty because you believe you don't do enough nice things to others in turn.

Some pepole just don't like being dependant on other people even if it's just a gift .also some fell insecure and don't accept it or they don't want to bother anyone

I have it the same way and I know many that feels that way aswell. It's usually based on what you're used to or not. Did you recieve things as younger or is it still unusual to you? Do you feel as if you owe them something in return or guilty for accepting? Figure out what's running through your head when it happens, think "Is this really that bad" or tell them that you feel that way. :) Good luck.

You feel bad because you feel like you are undeserving of that gift and you're not worthy enough of it.

If you feel bad when someone does something nice for you, specially if they buy you gifts will because you think they are buying you it in return you can forgive their actions or they just want to do something kind so you will feel good about as well as the one who bought it.