Why do I feel bad when someone does something nice for me, specially if they buy me gifts?

It may be because you feel as if you do not deserve it, that it creates expectations or that you may not be able to do such things for them in return. Maybe you feel that you do not know them well enough for gift exchanging. If any of these things are the reason to why maybe look at the reasons they are giving you gifts or doing nice things for you. Introspection is a very useful tool in answering such questions such as this but if you still feel stuck try looking at it from a friends point of view.

We all have different personality so that the way of thinking.. if someone does good to me.. or wanted to buy gift and all, i start getting feeling like why they are doing this .. I have to do same in return..if i could not do the same for them, may be they are expecting something from his.. All these negative stuff start roaming in my mind .. that makes me feel restless, and definitely i could not enjoy these nice things doing by others .. till i prepared and can say i could do the same for them too.

This question can have a number of reasons. But how about taking a minute or two to really think about what might have caused this? Theres the impression that you feel a lot of guilt when people buy you gifts, so it is worth thinking what could happen if they buy me this gift. Do you think you would owe them something? Or the present would not be good enough? I have had similar situations with friends and boyfriends but what I found was a lot of the time, they were only wanting to do something nice. Could this be possible for your friends?

I feel like this all the time! In my case, it’s because I feel like they are being very nice to me, but I’m not being nice enough back. Does this sound like what you might be experiencing? I don’t think you need to feel like you need to buy them something in return, though. While it would be a nice way of showing them that you care for them, your friendship alone should be enough :) I think that the fact that you feel bad when someone does something nice for you shows that you are very humble, and that you really care for your friends and family!

It can be hard to accept nice things because you feel like you're not deserving or you're just a very humble person, and that's not a bad thing! But you should allow other people to do nice things for you, it's coming from a place of caring and possibly love and you should allow that into your life. So instead of feeling bad (which I know can be hard, sometimes it's just automatic) just practice being thankful. It's one thing to say thank you and another to actually be thankful. If someone does something really nice that means they're grateful for you and want to show their gratitude. Allow yourself to accept these nice things and tell yourself that you deserve it, because you do!

Some people are raised in a way that they should feel grateful and thankful for a gift so as a child being told how to feel and think. As an adult receiving a gift or having something nice done for us that can bring back childhood thinking. Being/behaving grateful and thankful and feeling it are two separate things. Yes we should feel happy when someone does something nice, even if we express that to the giver at the time and then quietly explore reasons why we are still stuck in that negative pattern that we were raised, through meditation and self affirmation this is possible. It takes a life time to heal. No one should need permission think or feel anything a certain way, yet as a child we are told by parents who were on doing their best at the time with the circumstances they were given. Forgiveness is the key

You do not feel comfortable with receiving. There is no right or wrong- it is about acknowledging the feeling in the present and starting to identify the tools to help you conquer it. ask yourself- how do i feel when i give gifts to others? may be it fills your heart with joy- especially when you see that you put a smile on their face. put yourself in the shoes of the person giving you the gift or doing something for you- also ask yourself- how do i truly feel when someone helps me? what is driving me to feel that way? dive deep and peel out the layers to identify the root cause of your behavior and work on it one step at a time.

Sometimes due to our own trauma or self esteem, we feel unworthy of the things others do for/offer to us. It is important to remember that gift giving is a love language and we are all deserving of love. Typically, when you do go out of your way to do something for someone, or when you give a gift, why do you do it? Does it feel like a burden? Dose it make you happy to give? Chances are some one did something nice for you, or gave you a gift because they love you! Accepting it is ok!

Perhaps you do not think, in some deeper way, that you are worthy of the gifts, even though you have clearly earned them through your actions of care towards that person. However, this can be hard to decipher if you feel that the gift if unwarranted or is being used as a bribe of some sort, whether for your attention or time. This can be confusing to the psyche. This can be manifest by your feeling bad when someone does something nice for you, especially if they buy you gifts, if you do not believe that there is reciprocality in the relationship. I hope this helps.

Everyone has what I call little "brain lies." These are things our brain makes up about ourselves, our life, our relationships, and our environment that are not actually true. Most often, these "brain lies" are things someone told us long ago, or implied about us through their actions. One of the most common "brain lies" is the idea that "I'm not worthy of ...." In your example, "I'm not worthy of anything nice or any gifts." I would definitely suggest exploring (potentially with a therapist) what could have been planted in your psyche that makes you feel as though you aren't worthy of someone's kindness!