Why do I feel bad when someone does something nice for me, specially if they buy me gifts?

When someone buys me a gift, it almost feels like an obligation has been created without my permission. I'm obligated to like it, to appreciate it, and to use it, so it feels like a gift with strings attached. It can make me feel powerless because someone is almost forcing me to reciprocate their gift with an emotional response that I didn't genuinely want to give them.

Maybe subconsciously you believe that you do not deserve it. This could be due to many reasons example Childhood trauma and etc. You will need to open your heart to realize that you deserve all the good treatments and gifts given to you. And appreciate that people appreciates u.

That is because some part of you thinks you do not deserve that. Not the gift, but rather the affection behind it, the appreciation behind it. You feel like you've come up short in that area. You've not given them enough love, showed them enough affection. This feeling of "I haven't done enough for them" - is why you feel bad. But it could be just a perception or assumption of yours. You just feel like you haven't done enough for them, yet they are showering you with affection and love. :)

It's an issue of self esteem and self worth. The more you love yourself, the more you can genuinely understand why others would love and value you enough to give you gifts.

Probably because you are used to be the one doing that for people and you don't want them to do that for you. We gotta learn to give but to also receive, remember that :)

I think that you feel bad when someone buys you something, because you don't want to feel like you're using them, or them thinking you as selfish. There's nothing wrong with it, but don't let it stop you from people doing random acts of kindness towards you.

It's because you don't feel like you're good enough or that you don't deserve it, you underestimate your importance to other people.

When you are not able to accept love and appreciation from others it means you were hurt badly at some point in your life; see life as it comes, it is unpredictable. you will have good and bad times. but this is life. it is beautiful, its a blessing. if u had any bad experience with one person it doesnt mean everyone will do the same so just try to accept love and appreciation. you deserve it.

Hi5! I seriously feel the same way when someone buy me gift. I don't know maybe because we can afford it, and it is kind of offensive when people buy it for us. Or it can be that we just feel like that someone must have want something back from us.

I think this is something we've all gone through before! I know it feels "wrong" but it really shouldn't - sometimes receiving a gift from someone gives us the innate feeling of obligation, as though we have to return the gift or the favour or else we're somehow in the person's "debt". This is of course unpleasant but the thing to do usually is ignore it. You realise that when you're on the giving end, you don't expect the person to return the gift, immediately at least. We shouldn't therefore worry about it either!