Why do I compare everyone to my bad relationship?

I feel like it is a natural thing to do after we have had a bad experience. Fear is an essential part of our lives. It keeps us safe and protects us from things that may hurt us. However, sometimes we see danger where there isn't necessarily any. If you have had a bad experience in a previous relationship, it's only natural that you would have that experience in the back of your mind in new relationships. That's your way of protecting yourself. You don't want it to happen again, and as a result, we look for possible signs that it may happen again. It's all a matter of learning to trust ourselves, our judgment, and other people.

Once bitten twice shy. And then it is natural to get skeptic. Normally you invest a lot in a relationship and when it doesn't work the way you foresee it. You end up being skeptical. And negative. I will just say if you are currently unhappy with your outlook then try and change the way view at others. May be baby steps replace the "I don't think it will work" with "what if"

Having a bad relationship is a stressful and tough situation. Even after the relationship ends it's difficult to move past it and learn to trust and love again. Once you experience the hurt of a bad relationship, you tend to feel scared that everyone is going to hurt you like your ex did. In my experience, it's hard to move past it. It takes a lot of positive affirmations to remind yourself that you can and will love and trust again. In time, you'll be able to stop comparing everyone though. You just have to be patient with yourself while you heal.

Hello, it's understandable that you might compare everyone to your bad relationship or relationships. Sometimes bad relationships can really leave a lasting impression on us because in negative relationships a lot of conflict exists between individuals and too often we see the unpleasant sides of another person. Over time, even after the bad relationship is over- we try to protect ourselves by comparing the healthy relationships to the bad relationship in the hopes that we won't be hurt the same way or arguably make the same mistakes.

In my opinion you compare everyone to your bad relationship because in away you feel like they have things in common with your partner. You feel like they do the same things and that they act in the same way or maybe they're different from your partner. Maybe just maybe you compare your partner to everyone else because you're trying to tell yourself that your partner is something that they aren't whether it be good or bad

Because you're afraid that the person would turn out to be like the last person who might have treated you poorly.

If it's your first it might be all you know and think everyone is like that or just someone is better and you regret your bad relationship.

Because you are waiting to get hurt again. For them to treat you like they treated you. You don't want to end up in the same situation or another bad relationship so you are trying to analyze everything, protect yourself and make sure it doesn't happen again.

Good Question. Maybe you're feeling insecure. If you're in a bad relationship, likely you're in need of something you're not getting. It could be anything, really. Love and Security are two major possibilities of something you're missing. And when you see those things displayed in other people, you crave it. Really, I would need more information about your situation to take a better guess, but this pops into mind right away.

Because you wish your relationship would as good as theirs it's very normal it would go away as long as you get a better relationship try to avoid comparing by looking at the good things you have or compare yourself with who's worse than your relationship