Why do I always have more trouble managing my anger than any other emotion?

Anger is a hard thing to manage because it comes all of a sudden and we have a hard time dealing with how to handle it. It is one of the most vicious emotions, as it has many emotions wrapped into one. This is normal. Just take a breath and let everything work its way back down to a calm level.

Anger is one of our strongest emotions. From my experience I've found that whilst I can control most other emotions, anger can be hard. This is particularly when I've bottled anger up and pretended to be okay. After a while, I can rage out over something small because eventually the anger must come out. Also, when around someone who for some reason triggers anger around you, it can be hard to pretend.

When I was a child it was so hard to understand why and how my anger could just take over, I would find myself thinking, saying and doing things I did not truly mean. It was almost like an out of body experience, and I had to learn to noticed the feelings as they started to build and what would work to stop things from reaching my breaking point. Sometimes walking away and finding a quiet place where I could read and listen to music by myself in near silents would help, or even just going for a walk could be helpful. but over time I knew that did not cut it for some of my anger. You see I felt a lot of stress and even if I was not reacting I still felt the Anger, so once again I thought about the problem and over time realized that I needed to voice my hurt to others and not just to myself, saying things like "I am really upset by that", or "I want to talk with you but how you are talking to me is hurtful, could we speak later" and so on seemed to help get the anger out of my head and stopped it from turning on myself. In short we as humans feel, it can be good and bad, but we have to understand that its natural and understanding our limits and how to best interact with others and care for our own well being is key to handling strong emotions like anger.

Anger is an irrational emotion, which leads to irrational behavior. Irrational behavior is the hardest to control because you know you should calm down, but you simply can't.

Because anger is an emotion that generates an enormous amount of energy, managing this type of energy takes an enormous effort

When your angry, you forget all logic. Instead of relying on the facts, you rely on emotions. You don't stop to breathe and rethink and assess the situation. Instead, you focus on what YOU think is right, and completely disregard how others feel. In fact, it even leads you to forget what you did wrong, often times making you believe you are 100% correct. At times, you start thinking "oh my god, how could they do this to me," which is when ego starts playing a role. This is why it's much harder to manage anger than any other emotion.