Why can I help everyone but myself?

Because it's easier to give advice than to follow it. It's also easier to help others because your judgment is less clouded and you can think clearer. Helping ourselves is the hardest thing, it takes a lot of effort.

I care deeply about everyone who needs support. I don't judge them, and I wish only the best for them. But when it comes to myself, I think of all my flaws first, and I think of what I haven't been able to do in the past. This clouds my ability to allow myself to find positive ways to change the things that make me unhappy.

For me the answer can only be answered by the individual, in this case me, I can't answer for you. All I know is that to help myself I first need to feel capable and worthy of being helped. To me this is linked with whether or not I can accept help, and to accept help I need to feel a sense of connection with myself. To find connection with myself I need to find time to be with myself, to accept the silence in my heart; the imperfections, the failings, the highs and the lows. To truly help I need to feel worthy of being helped myself. Peace.

This is the "can't see the forest for the trees" effect. Being social animals, we need the help of others to guide us through things. When we are stuck in something emotionally, it's often difficult to see the way out in a reasonable manner. We need others to help us sort out the emotions of the matter and get through it. This is perfectly normal and everyone gets this way from time to time!

Sometimes people help others because they are too afraid to help themselves. Is a therapy for them. This does not mean what you are doing is wrong. It just means that you need to know that you are worthy too. Just as equal as the person you are helping.

As humans, we are GREAT at nurturing others, and putting ourselves on the back burner. We naturally don't think highly of ourselves over everyone else.

Helping other people is easy. Being able to accept yourself for who you are and take your own advice is hard. For me, helping others gives me a sense of hope, so it is benefical. I do have my own struggles though, and often times it is hard to help myself. That's why you need to be brave just like each person on here has and reach out for help when you need it, regardless of if you consider yourself a helpful person or not. c: I commend you for asking this question, that's already the first step. It's time to take the second one. You can do it!

Just because you see what others do wrong in their life, doesn't mean you see what you do wrong yourself. That's like children complaining about their siblings annoying them; they only see that they were being harmed, not that they may have started the fight. Reflecting yourself is something you have to learn and most importantly practice. Never stop asking yourself questions!

Because when it comes to other people's situations, we have an un-biased objective point of view. We have a fresh outlook on other's pains and sufferings whereas we're right in the middle of our own- we're overwhelmed with our problems which makes them so hard to deal with whereas when you see someone else's, being an outside party makes it easier to have a clear view of them .

I feel when your helping everyone else, especially on here as I listener I have been helping myself and working through my issues as I am helping them.