When I tell people how I'm feeling, they make me feel worse by telling me I'm wrong or to suck it up, how can I avoid this?

only tell people who understandu, who you feel. because u are NOT wrong. you CANT just suck it up! they have no idea how it feels like. they don't understand that there are people out there who actually have real problems

Especially if it's somebody close to you doing this, ask them if you can talk to them (when you're calm and clear-headed, or as much so as possible). Explain that sometimes you want to just vent, or to tell people what you're feeling to have support or affirmation that you're not alone in having these feelings, or that the feelings are completely legitimate to have. Maybe tell them in your own words how it feels when they tell you you're wrong and to suck it up. It seems unlikely that this will work, but - especially if you can keep pretty cool - it has a good chance to. I would try to go to my parents when I was feeling stressed or depressed or anxious, and they'd respond that way to me. So after I'd relaxed a little I told them it isn't helpful, but rather the opposite, when they responded this way. I acknowledged that they're trying to help, but then outlined a better way for them to help me personally. On the flip side, sometimes it just doesn't work (I've had this happen with a couple friends). If that's the case, and I know it can be really hard, but you have to try to not let their words affect you, or just not go to them when you're wanting to talk about how you feel. Have some people you've talked to like above and are supportive of you, and go to them instead, even if it's just via message or the phone. If you're feeling like even those people aren't hearing you, you are always welcome here at 7cups, and there are also help lines for various problems that are 24/7. And remember, no problem is too small, and you shouldn't feel guilty for seeking help, or like you're taking somebody's time away from somebody else's bigger problems. I promise, you're not.

You can respond by: "I just wanted to let you know how I feel. I want you to accept that, your support would mean a lot to me."

No one is wrong or right is this life, we're learning everyday and when we're learning we pass by troubles and bad days. Don't feel worse by saying how you're feeling... feel fresh and fab!

stand for what you say ,don't accept a opinion that you don't necessarily agree with.and take notice of the negative people in your life and avoid them

You can't suck something up when your mind tells you otherwise. We humans go by what we want and need. Not by something somebody tells us.

Be assertive in making it clear what kind of listener you would like someone to be. Here on 7cups we practice active listening by default, but in the real world people have a tendency to give advice or try to cheer you up by telling you not to worry. This is not always helpful! It can be a good idea to say "I just need you to listen to what's going on for me right now." Most people will get the hint.

It's a good idea to ask others to talk and listen to you before you reveal what you're struggling with because some people don't have the listening and empathy skills. Find someone who agrees to listen to you.

Be careful who you confide in. Not everybody is capable of being empathetic towards our feelings, therefore we must choose our confiders carefully.

Don't listen to them. Think about positive things and reach for neutral help if needed (aka people that are not TOO familiar with you and can have a distance from the initial situation).