What's the point of happiness if I don't want it?

I think it's OK not to want something just because everyone else is talking about it. This is especially true with abstract concepts like happiness, when other peoples' definitions might not suit you. In my experience, I've found more fulfillment in aiming for meaning. By asking myself questions like, "what is meaningful to me?" or "how can I create meaning for others?" I have created a life that is interesting enough to me that I'm less concerned about attaining happiness per se. Many creative people throughout history have channelled their negative experiences and emotions through their art. But you don't need to be an accomplished artists to do that - all you have to do is find a way to express yourself.

Congratulations for crossing the first hurdle on the way of becoming successful if happiness is not what you need. Trust me! People blindly run after happiness thinking it's success when it's actually the opposite. I would sound logical with this example, a person wants to have a fit body, say for that he/she has to exercise. He exercises one day and gets a back ache. The other day he is not willing to do the exercise and if he does, he would go against his body which would later on give him intense pain and his happiness will be all gone. So now what came in between the person and his goal attain a good figure? His happiness, isn't it? So if you don't want happiness that's okay! Nothing to be stressed about!!

Happiness is a very subjective matter. I for myself find the ultimate truth or knowledge of life more important in life. It is completely okay if you don't find a need for it yourself. Happiness is hard to seek for because you can't promise it to yourself from anything. Happiness could mean something different for you than the meaning of the presence of pleasure and the absence of pain for you. You could maybe get a sense of gratification from giving a "happiness" to others. You are entitled to seek what you want in life and if the idea of happiness isn't one you are welcome to focus on other things. You could apply yourself to the philosophy of deontology where you don't focus on the happiness as the outcome of situations but you just focus on your own sense of duty in life and your moral obligations for others.

Happiness and utter contentment (desire-lessness) is your natural state, the thing is most of us don't realise and experience this because of the belief and conviction in the idea we believe ourselves to be (ego). The ego is a mental construct derived from our past conditioning, strongly held beliefs, programming, experiences and reinforcement from others etc. The "I" you're referring to in this case is the idea you have of who you are, not what you truly are which is timeless and boundless awareness, untroubled by the mind, emotions or events/circumstances in the outer world. Only the idea of who we are "suffers", although it can feel very very real.

The most fascinating thing about happiness is that it will somehow reach you, even if you don't want it. Things around you, be it small or big, has the possibility of bringing a smile in your face. There can never be a person in this world who says that he doesn't want happiness. Even looking at the sun rising in the sky, or a bud blossoming may create a sense of satisfaction in you. This satisfaction is nothing but HAPPINESS. The point is nobody should go in search of happiness, when looking deep down inside yourself, you may find unconditioned happiness. But like all things in this world, happiness is not permanent. When one form of happiness departs, we have to patiently wait for another form of happiness, which may be bigger than the previous one. So, Fill your life with positivity and happiness.

Happiness is an emotion, not a state of being. It's not an emotion anyone should expect to feel at all times. We are humans. We feel sad sometimes. We feel scared sometimes. And we feel happy sometimes. Even if you don't want happiness right now, that's ok. Don't worry so much. It is not an "all or nothing", or a "now or never" situation, even if it might seem like it at times. If you allow yourself the possibility of feeling happiness, just like you can allow yourself the possibility of feeling other emotions, the more chances you get to find out how to deal with them in the most healthy way possible.

The most fascinating thing about happiness is that it will somehow reach you, even if you don't want it. Things around you, be it small or big, has the possibility of bringing a smile in your face. There can never be a person in this world who says that he doesn't want happiness. Even looking at the sun rising in the sky, or a bud blossoming may create a sense of satisfaction in you. This satisfaction is nothing but HAPPINESS. The point is nobody should go in search of happiness, when looking deep down inside yourself, you may find unconditioned happiness. But like all things in this world, happiness is not permanent. When one form of happiness departs, we have to patiently wait for another form of happiness, which may be bigger than the previous one. So, Fill your life with positivity and happiness.

Maybe it's a great thing to consider why you don't want happiness... Don't you think you deserve it?!! I believe everyone deserves happiness... If you don't want it I might suggest a blockage. This could be brought on by a traumatising youth or childhood where your parents or caregivers didn't mirror you that you're deserving of happiness... Maybe even that depression is the way live. It would be great to search with a therapist what's behind those blockages... I wish you good luck and hope that you consider if the fact that you say you don't want happiness... Might be a depression, you can talk with a therapist about it. With greetings and love, Sara

Everyone should want (and keep in mind DESERVES) happiness. I would describe it as something that holds us all together as a community, family, friends etc. If you really don't want to be happy, you have to ask yourself.. why? Why do you think you don't deserve it? Self forgivness can be crucial when you are at this low point in your life. Whatatever you think you did, you have to be able to forgive youself and move on, let go. Look towards a better future instead of the past. I think based on this question that you are keeping yourself trapped in a metaphorical box, when you have the key.

How do you define your happiness? Because happiness is an emotion arising from the happenings of life, something that you did, or someone else did for you. So is it the reasons that produce happiness that you don't want or is it still happiness for you? Maybe if you look at things this way, you might find that, it really isn't happiness that you don't want but something else that has you questioning the point of your happiness. Break down what makes happiness for you and what breaks it for you. A list would makes things easier. Or maybe even identifying the patterns that are making you question happiness.