What can I do to better manage my overwhelming sexual desires by my own without a counsellor/psychologist? How can I stop masturbating and stop watching pornography?

If it is not entirely impossible for you to seek some sort of therapy for this, then I highly recommend as it's very difficult to tackle on your own, like any addiction. However if that is not a option for you, the fact you have recognised that this is a overwhelming aspect of your life is the first step. Everyone has sexual desires and wants and needs and it's completely healthy. It becomes unhealthy when you feel it consumes you, as you will always have that urge for something more- more satisfaction and that is where pornography comes in. I think wishing to stop masturbating and stop watching this material may be to far fetched and unrealistic. It's important to look at other aspects of your life, are you lacking in social interaction ? Is your work not how you would like it to be ? Are you looking for some form of escapism ? Really think about this. As if other aspects of your life are not good for you, you'll be more inclined to want to escape for a while and feel good. Gain satisfaction from your work, life experience, relationships. You can eventually Balance things out to a more healthy level.

This is a very difficult thing to deal with, and the first step is to give yourself grace and know that you are not alone. Nearly everyone has sexual desires and it is almost inevitable to give into them at some point. It is crucial to forgive yourself when you give in because shame makes the addiction cycles even worse. Try your best to recognize when you feel those urges the most or what situations may trigger them. Once you know what influences your sexual desires, you can make an effort to avoid those triggers as much as you can. Another thing that can help is reaching out to a trusted friend or mentor, of that is an option for you. Expressing what you are struggling with and getting help from peers is a huge step towards freedom. They may be able to give you tips or keep you accountable. You can try to install pornography blockers to your devices and finding different types of media that you can distract yourself with (such as tv shows, youtube videos, or games).

Managing sexual desire in a healthy way is key. If masturbating and watching porn is getting in the way of your everyday life, then in is important to self reflect and determine why you are filling your time with these things. However, masturbating is completely normal and healthy if it is not impacting your daily responsibilities. Spend some time reflecting on why you want to stop masturbating and watching porn, and then try to determine other activities that could fill that time. In addition, reflect on if you can masturbate in a healthy way. If you're still finding that these are a problem in your life, reaching out to a licensed therapist would be an ideal next step.

I struggle with this too, I've quit watching porn for about 1 year or more now but it was tough! But it is so worth it! You have to start small and reward yourself for the little wins. I think giving up porn is what you want to focus on first. At least that's what I did. You can do this by leaving your phone or laptop somewhere that's not in your room. That way you cannot watch anything. Then you will likely want to masterbate, and that's fine as we are trying to stop the porn-watching first. The longer you go without it the more your dependency on it goes. If you go a month of doing this it will become automatic! Hope this helps. All the best!

There are support groups for people with these addictions. If you are not comfortable joining a groups it might be helpful to have a trusted friend who you can reach out to when you have these urges. It can get your mind off of the urge and help you feel cared for in a different way. Sexual addiction is a form of self medication. Find something else that makes you feel good which is less destructive and give that a go when you would normally being acting out on your urged. Sometimes sexual/porn addiction stems from boredom and then becomes a destructive habit. Treat yourself to other enjoyable things. You got this!

To manage issues like this it takes time to stop and focus on the world again. Remember however that there is nothing wrong with this and it is a phase of growing up, soon you will grow out of it and be able to focus on other things in your life. In the meantime, fill your time with productive tasks that you need to do and distract yourself from those urges.

That is a situation I definitely would not take up on my own. I don't really have any suggestions, I guess because that isn't my area of profession and I do not know much about it. But that is definitely something I would see a counselor about instead of trying to overcome yourself, especially if you are unsure about ways to overcome it.

Investing in other hobbies, going out more, exercising, pursuing the arts. The best way might be to place your devices / use them in front of people so you'll be less likely to watch.

Try to lower your daily dose of Sexuality activity everyday, until you find that you no longer need it. If you can't, try lowering it once a week.

If pornography and masturbation are overtaking your life, they may each be an addiction and in any case, addiction is best treated with professional help as it is very difficult to overcome without a guide.