What can I do to better manage my overwhelming sexual desires by my own without a counsellor/psychologist? How can I stop masturbating and stop watching pornography?

Distract yourself. Keep yourself busy with things you love, or even better a sport you like. Thus you will be too tired to even think of it and it also helps to maintain your health

For one, you have to try to strengthen your self will. Also, getting rid of, or putting "things" out of sight helps. Busy yourself so you don't have the time either.

It's okay to reach out ot a counsellor or professional whenever anything is interfering with your day-to-day well-being. Asking here is a great start, but a trained professional would be okay to speak to. It's brave to reach out and shows a sign of strength and hope! Personally, you may need to ask yourself some difficult questions and be honest with your own answers without judgment, questions like why do you masturbate? why do you watch pornography? what feelings do you experience before, during, and after these activities? would you call this behavior part of an obsessive pattern? if so, can you change the pattern every so slightly, little-by-little? What tiny changes can you think of that can change your masturbation ritual? What other activities or things can you pursue that will bring up the fulfillment of the emotions you listed earlier? Love yourself, explore your options, and good luck.

If anything you do makes you feel bad you can self talk which is what I do. In your case, saying things like I won't let bad things control my life. I have respect for myself and don't need to do things that disgust me. Anything along that line. Then when the urge hits you like if you are triggered by someone you see or on the internet, tv or a voice you hear on the radio, etc., turn it off, close the tab, or whatever is needed to get it away from you. Keep yourself busy. Something I might suggest is if you have respect for a person you would never do that to, think of how much it would hurt that person and how wrong it is. What you choose to do with your life and allow in your life is all up to you.

Don't place yourself in situations of temptation. Actively avoid situations that will lead to opportunities to commit the behavior you are trying to avoid.

The first step is to accept the fact that excessive of either masturbation or pornography is not good for you. It only distances you from the reality, makes you feel isolated and start to view the opposite/same sex as objects rather the person with heart and soul that they are. Acknowledging this fact is one of the first things that must be done. Then comes the part of avoiding it gradually and taking one step at a time. You'll have to find out creative outlets which you can do when you start to have such thoughts. Let every time you have a craving to watch porn serve as a reminder to focus on your creative outlet. It could be anything that'll keep you occupied, something that you have always wanted to do or just about anything that you feel will help you take your mind off such thoughts. Treat each time you had a desire to watch porn or mastrubate and yet when you didn't as an achievement and see how that you made you feel as opposed to how it must have been had you given in to these negetive desires. This will serve as a motivation to avoid it the next time and then the next time and so on until you feel you are completely out of it. Also don't be too hard on yourself it's normal to give it to these temptations once in a while it's only natural and take it as a lesson on what better you can do the next time. Consider this whole process as a marathon as opposed to a sprint or a one time thing. It's a long process but with each time you avoid giving into such negative feelings you are a mile closer to the finish line.

With every addiction, the first step is to not think about stopping it but finding some other activity to invest more of your time into. Try to figure out your patterns and triggers, work on them.

Pornography kind of destroyed my life. I was a star student in elementary school and middle school, but became addicted to BDSM pornography in middle school in the shower, significantly raising the water bill to my oblivious parents' confusion. After some years of porn and mental issues, my sex drive went down dramatically. The highs of masturbation was so high that other experiences became much lower. Later on in high school, I became depressed but still made it on to university. Now in university, I have not watched porn in over a year and have regained some interest in computer science and mathematics again. (Side joke: I think programming in MATLAB is a good method against masturbation urges because it is such a painful experience.)

You can better manage your sexual desires by distracting yourself by doing some work or by focusing on your hobbies.Although masturbating and watching porn is very natural,it is better to limit it as it can turn into an addiction.

It is important to change one bad habit for a better one; try an exercise such as running or yoga, or pick up something new for your mind, such as learning a new language in order to see things differently. In many cases, it can be important to open up to the people close to you or even a trained professional in order to overcome this disease - which it is without a doubt. Try finding podcasts, educational videos and even other people who have gone through the same thing as you, and it will help you in your journey.