What can I do to better manage my overwhelming sexual desires by my own without a counsellor/psychologist? How can I stop masturbating and stop watching pornography?

Sex is beautiful because it is natural, but sexuality ugly because it is not, which is psychotic. When sex becomes cerebral, when sex enters into your head, it becomes sexuality. But, the head is not the center for sex, which means not the function of the head. That is getting into confusion; it is getting deranged. When sex enters in through the head, it becomes sexuality. Then you think about sex, and then you fantasize about sex. And the more you believe, the more you fantasize about it, the more you will get into trouble. Then nothing real will ever satisfy you, because there is no limitation on fantasy, and reality is limited. You must know, Repression makes sex as pathological sexuality, which one extreme. If you can't deal it with yourself, you need help. Yes, there are other options, yoga — the best way to control your desire without suppressing it.

First thing to know is that you are not alone. I was addicted to online pornography and masturbation for over 30 years. As opposed to alcoholism, drugs or gambling is is much less destrucive thus safer and easier to remain addicted for a long time. As with any addiction the behavior is just a symptom to an deeper underlying problem probably related to attachment issues in your childhood or subsequent trauma that you have undergone. For the issues of addiction, healing the wonded child or dealing with past trauma there are good online resourses if you search for them. You are not abnormal and you have to forgive yourself for the your behavior. It is the way you have found to continue functioning with your wounded self. You can find a path for a more constructive way but the first step is understanding, forgiving and loving yourself

Perhaps as yourself why you are having these desires - what will sex bring you? Happiness? Confidence? something else? Once you are aware of WHY you have these desires, you can replace it with other things that will give you what you are looking for - lets say its confidence, just for giggles - perhaps join a gym or learn a new skill to become more confident, for example - i know this is easier said than done, but perhaps you are missing somthing else in your life that is the actual cause for why you are having these desires... hope this helps, if even a little Mike

Find something else that interests you to distract yourself but also know that those desires are ok.

First, you need a strong will to stop. You need to tell yourself, "Okay, my goal is to stop masturbating and watching porn". Secondly, set yourself a goal. Say, "okay, I will masturbate only 2 times this week". Thirdly, Reduce the number of times until you have none left. Then treat yourself. Do something you really like. Another suggestion would be having a motivation. Put something that you really really want to achieve on the front-line. For example, I want to be an amazing guitarist. Then, replace the time you do masturbation and watching porn with this. It will help you reduce the need to succumb to your desires while at the same time, gain a new skill! Good luck to anyone trying this!

I think technology plays a big part of our bedtime routine. I also had this problem, and for me, it wasn't until I forced myself to stop that I actually did. It was very hard for me. One thing I suggest is to try and go one day without it, then two, then three, and so one. I know you might make a mistake in the schedule, but continue to space out the days of watching porn until you stop completely, and masturbating seems like a past part of your life! Hopefully it can also help you setting those goals!

I am sorry that you are going through that. It is going to take a bit of work on your part. Basically, you need to find a way to distract yourself when you get the urge. Get a new hobby (crafts, games, sports, etc). Exercise is a great distraction, and you'll feel good after. Find an accountability partner. Good luck.

First of all, you don't have to feel ashamed of it. I suppose you need to see a sexologist to address the issue. I will also ask you to keep trying to avoid watching it and doing masturbation. If you fail, it is okay. Do not be harsh. Start fresh again and avoid again. If you fail again, restart again. It will take a bit time. Seeing a sexologist would be helpful while you try to avoid. Remember that you do not have to be feeling sad when you fail. Slowly but steadily you will recover from it. It will take time. It might take 3 - 5 years as well. But keep trying whenever you fail. If you cannot afford a sexologist, try doing exercises. Wake up in the morning and do yoga. Do not do any exercise which triggers it. Always stay hydrated ( drink atleast 2 litres of water everyday ) ,have a sleep routine and strictly follow it even if you cannot. You can eat walnuts or have 0mega 3 supplements as well. Go slow. Just do the exercises which you like. Maintain a daily routine of life and avoid chilly and spicy food cause it can trigger it. And try to wear boxers or even avoid wearing underpants. Make sure your groin area is ventilated and cool . Take care.🤗

I don't see anything in masturbating nor in watching porn. If you are not sexually active then it can be a helpful resource. If not, being active and distracted may help as well.

If you need to stop watching pornography,you should get a family member or friend to block porn websites and put a password lock on. You can also call your internet provider.