What can I do to better manage my overwhelming sexual desires by my own without a counsellor/psychologist? How can I stop masturbating and stop watching pornography?

Your desire to stop masturbating and watching porn will actually make you want to do them even more. I'm guessing you are religious and your religion has told you that porn and masturbation are sinful. You need to understand that these things are inevitable and natural. Obsessing about your "sins" and "sinful" desires will only make you anxious and guilty, and this will make you desperate for a shot of dopamine through masturbation. Trying to stop is more likely to foster deviant sexual desires as your body seeks gratification while your mind associates sexual intimacy with "sin". This will negatively affect your romantic relationships since they will be associated with "sin". And this will lead to isolation and probably depression. So to your question of how to manage your desires on your own. The reason we seek dopamine through masturbation is the same reason that everyone seeks drugs - we are desperate for a release from the suffering of life. Guilt and anxiety about sex will only increase this desire. So what can be done? Instead of trying to suppress sexual thoughts or hungers, pay attention to them. Focus your attention on the thoughts and emotions for as long as you can. This is a type of meditation and will help your general happiness. Trying to suppress the yearnings will only create more anxiety and depression. Another thing to do is to develop your relationships with family and friends. If you have any fun hobbies then put some more time into them also. Follow your spiritual or religious path as it relates to awareness of "higher powers" but not as it relates to sin. Focusing on this behavior in terms of sin and righteousness will just put you in the ranks of the countless religious men who tried "avoid sin" only to develop deviant, illegal, or unhealthy habits. Repression and suppression simply don't work. Relax. If you masturbate or look at porn then oh well, just move on living your best life. Getting hung up on this habit will only make the sexual desires become more powerful.

If this is a genuine concern or worry, I believe that maintaining that time to do other things can be incredibly productive. Take a long, hot shower. Go for a jog until the will subsides. It might sound ridiculous, but call a friend or a family member and have a chat to them for a while. Keep your mind and body active and start growing used to not doing it. But don't be too hard on yourself if you slip up. Masturbation is entirely natural and it brings pleasure. There is no shame in it. Be gentle with yourself. It takes time.

First you must develop a social life. Staying at home alone is a bad idea. Go for a walk make friends, start hobbies or sports where you are not alone. Secondly you must make it difficult for yourself to do anything you dont want. Turn off the wi-fi at home unless you need it for something important. Take the t.v and computer/laptop out of your room and put it in a public space. Search the internet and try to find the many support groups and organizations that exist that adress this issue.

Unfortunately, just like a person who lives with drug addiction, addiction to masturbation and pornography stimulates the same portion in the brain with an "overdose" of a neurotransmitter that addicts us. The difficult side is that just like a dependent, your brain will go through withdrawal a few times until it decreases. I would advise you to read about the 12 Step Working Guide that was developed by anonymous narcotics and consider their overwhelming desires as a chemical dependency. Society today encourages us to overuse these types of materials to make it easier to sell products, but the harm we do is real.

Sometimes people master are because there's nothing else to do and that leads to porn. It's the same when some people eat. They only do it because there is nothing else going on. But if it is more serious and you have almost a craving to masterbate. Then you have to slowly wane yourself off. Don't go cold turkey just replace it with something else that will busy your mind and hands maybe excersise and listen to music or read. Whatever it takes.

This is a brave question...To manage your overwhelming desire, put in your mind that you can do it, and keep thinking about your reasons to quit those two habits. You can write down your reasons on a paper and put it somewhere visible to you,like your personal desktop. Your self-reminder will probably motivate you to start finding ways that distract your mind away from what you want to quit. Try meditating every day, it helps to relax you and to clear your mind . You can also focus on your hobbies, or discover a new one by trying new things, such as a sport you never participate in.

Find other hobbies to replace those actions. When you find yourself craving those things, do the hobby in place of it.

It's natural to have sexual desires; it's part of who you are and as part of being a human being. It's perfectly healthy to sexually gratify yourself. If something's bothering you, try taking a moment to address what of thoughts you've been having, and when you are most overwhelmed by your urges. Perhaps, there is a something in your life that needs to be alleviated. Perhaps, you might need some way to relieve stress. A counselor/psychologist may even be the person to help you figure it all out, it's perfectly understandable.

Well for one, you don't need a psychologist about sexual desires. Maybe if you are confused about your sexuality, then yeah. But I dont think counseeling is required for that. Its a personal matter. How can people stop masturbating and watching porn? Well personally, I think that it is ones choice about masturbation. Self pleasure, and pleasure done by someone else is a normal human thing. If you want to stop watching porn, maybe you can imagine a scene, or visualize what you want to happen. Its all personal preference. But if you want to stop both entirely, Just do things to take your mind off it. If you get urges, go pick up a book. Theres so many ways to stop it. But again, there is nothing wrong with masturbation, or pornography. Child porn, now that is not okay and should be reported. And if you are under 18 I don't think you should be watching porn. But again, this is all my opinion. Sorry if I jumped around allot.

Since masturbation can be a response to boredom or frustration, try finding some other distractions or hobbies when you feel the urge to do it. Also consider the possibility that masturbation is not a bad thing - it doesn't hurt anyone and can be a good form of stress relief.