If someone is angry at me, should we talk it out at that moment or wait until they are not angry anymore?
gracefulAngel96
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Sep 17, 2015
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I don't think that it's a good idea to try to talk to someone when one or both parties is angry. My strategy is usually to get my anger out in a positive way (working out for me, but for others something else may work better), then collecting my thoughts and speaking with the person usually within a day or 2 of the incident. I do believe that waiting too long could make the situation worse, so I'd recommend using judgement to gauge how long you or the other person needs, but try to keep it under a weeks time.
Anonymous
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Nov 17, 2015
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It depends on the person and situation you find yourself in. Also most importantly it depends on your emotions you're feeling at the time. I find it best to wait until you feel stable enough to approach the person or wait until it's obvious they're no longer angry.
LaRNauxous
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Nov 17, 2015
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Depending on the situation, in my opinion. If I am at fault, and I know the reason they are angry, letting things cool a bit gas helped in my personal experience. Yet, if I am uncertain of why the person is angry, having answers/reasons makes it easier in the long run to resolve the issue.
Wolverineclaw
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Dec 28, 2015
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It depends upon the situation. If the anger is due to a misconception, telling might surprisingly calm them down... But mostly, it is better to let things cool down.
sugaryHoney88
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Feb 8, 2016
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If someone is angry with me, I wait until I have calmed down and let them know that when they have calmed down I will be ready to listen to them. Without any yelling or screaming.
Anonymous
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Feb 9, 2016
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I think, a cool down period is necessary while having a disagreement, or when someone is mad at you. It acts like a buffer, and helps calm the person(s) down.
Anonymous
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Mar 22, 2016
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Wait until they are no longer angry , so noting bad will be said in the moment but also so you don't say any thing in the heat of the moment and so that you have time to reflect on what really went on.
Anonymous
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Aug 15, 2016
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I think the best thing would be taking a break, wait until they are more calmed and then the conversation will be better.
strawberryPudding82
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Dec 6, 2016
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If you realize someone is getting angry, the best thing to do is allow a cool down before things are said that were not meant and to assess the situation realistically. Words once said, cannot be taken back.
Anonymous
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Apr 11, 2017
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From personal experience, it seems better to wait until they aren't as angry as they were. Anger is a strong emotion that leads to strong actions and words. If the two of you are angry, one of you might do or say something you'll regret. It's best to wait until you both have been able to reflect on your thoughts and feelings, then come together and talk about it. Don't leave the issue unresolved, however; it'll come back if it's important to one or both of you.
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