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I have very rapid mood swings, what's the best way to manage them so no one gets hurt?

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Anonymous on Jun 25, 2020
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This is quite a difficult situation. I also relate with this so I am going to share some tips of mine. Firstly, don't suffer in silence, you need your support network, explain to them how you are feeling and that you are trying to make a change but you need them to be understanding. Speak to a medical professional, they can help you and it is a secure, safe environment to be in to discuss this. I then after that found when I was offered DBT in a group setting that I couldn't go through with it but I purchased the book online that most medical providers use in this type of therapy and I found the book and exercises involved really helped.
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Anonymous on Sep 23, 2020
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When you feel like you could hurt someone take a deep breath. Leave the room and go for a walk alone. Take some time to think. Or take a hot shower to help release stress. Write in a journal how you feel, when you felt that way, and why. Keep track so that way you can avoid those triggers. Talk to people so they can understand. If someone does something that makes your mood change let them know that you don't like it. Find people who understand. Maybe you have a friend or someone you talk to when you need advice or help.
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Anonymous on Sep 30, 2020
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When you have rapid mood swings, you can try to give yourself time to think about what you will say, many times when we have mood swings we do not think about what we will say when we speak, and that can cause us to hurt other people even if we do not want to. , what I do is try to control myself and calm down before speaking. It is a good way to deal with this problem, although we cannot always deal with it, if we can reduce the impact it has on us, not hurting other people with what we say.
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Anonymous on Oct 14, 2020
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Its ok to have mood swings. If it is causing issues, then it needs attention. There are multiple ways in which mood swings can be addressed: 1. Meditation - Helps calm mind. Practicing meditation can help to reduce the frequency and intensity of mood swings. 2. Deep breathing - Helps in increasing the oxygen availability and better blood circulation. This can help relax. 3. Talk to a trusted person - Vent out. When one faces abrupt mood swings, its advisable to reach out to trusted people or forums such as 7cups to share your feelings. It can help reduce the intensity of it. 4. If the mood swings are very intense and out of control, medical intervention through consultation from a certified medical practioner s recommended.
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Anonymous on Dec 20, 2020
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I have had rapid mood swings, too. After a while, I realized that this habit scared away people in my life and I lost friends for that. I wouldn't give my own advice as you might not like it, but all I did to come out of the that was to be silent and think beforehand of the results if the hurtful words are being said. I wouldn't want to see or receive any offensive words neither do the other people. Therefore, that was what pushed me to the better states of mind. It feels better to remain calm and step back from the heated situation before things reach unreturning points.
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Anonymous on Jan 27, 2021
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Sometimes, when we are experiencing rapidly alternating mood swings, it can help to see a doctor about them. A doctor might be able to assess whether your rapid mood swings are being influenced by something that you are not aware of, such as the side effect of a medication or supplement, or an underlying health condition. Seeing a doctor is a great option for ruling out what's causing the mood swings, and perhaps if you get to the root cause, you will be better able to manage the mood swings so that, in your words, no one gets hurt.
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gracefulMist3929 on Feb 20, 2021
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Take a step back and reconsider what is going on. Take a few deep breaths and recompose yourself before making actions. Consider the worst thing that could happen right now and try to reposition yourself in a positive mindset. When you have some time alone, try to come up with a plan for what you can do, particularly at times when you experience these mood swings the worse. For example, if you are feeling anxious, walk away, count to 10, have a sip of water. If you are feeling upset, again, walk away, smile, and recompose yourself before making any descisions.
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Anonymous on Mar 4, 2021
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Based on my personal experience I would recommend pausing at such a moment and thinking about what I want to do or say. It is always better to alert others to this problem. It can be really tough to handle all these emotions which are swinging all the time. Take your time and keep calm. Impulsive decisions can only make things worse. There are various relaxation methods or metidations that help people organize their thoughts and feelings. If something like this happens to a large extent, it is not a bad idea to visit a psychologist beacuse sometimes it can be something more serious.
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calmingBubbles7513 on Mar 5, 2021
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I have found that tearing paper up into pieces really helps. Often when we are having rapid mood swings we want to hurt people or break things, so tearing paper or punching a pillow are good options to let some anger out. I have also found that if my mind is racing I write down all my thoughts onto a piece of paper and tear it up and throw it away, as this calms you down. I have heard an ice cube helps too, as by holding an ice cube in your hand, you brain focuses on that because the cube is so cold, and then you calm down. Never tried myself, but give it a shot!
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Linds1989 on Mar 10, 2021
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I can really hear you are concerned about how your mood will impact other people and that you want to work on managing your emotions. From my own personal experience I tried to track of those feelings of irritability or sadness once I was feeling stable enough. It is really important to check what the potential recurrent triggers are before your mood swing and to record these triggers in the format of a journal. Once you are able to notice some patterns forming you have a better idea of how to mentally prepare myself should you have to face a potentially triggering event and this enables yourself to be more likely to be in a positive headspace before facing that trigger. For further support you can communicate with one of our listeners or online therapists anonymously who may have personal experience or specialize in managing emotions. Self-help guides and mindfulness exercises are also available on our site. To obtain knowledge and understanding surrounding the management with mood swings can be referring to exercises involving assertiveness skills available on the Positive Psychology site or look into modalities such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) or Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT).
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Anonymous on Mar 18, 2021
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It’s normal to have days where you feel sad or days when you’re overjoyed. As long as your mood changes don’t interfere with your life to an extreme degree, they’re generally considered to be healthy. On the other hand, you may have a medical condition if you switch from extremely happy to extremely depressed on a regular basis. If you have serious and frequent shifts in mood, you should tell your doctor about them. They can discuss the possible reasons for why you’re experiencing them. Some causes of rapid changes in behavior can be related to mental health, hormones, substance use, or other health conditions.
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Anonymous on Apr 14, 2021
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Learn to recognise when those mood swings may happen: Do you suddenly get annoyed at the small things that happen? Do you suddenly find yourself thinking rude remarks about the people you care about? Alert the people around you, let them know what you are experiencing so they can understand if you are behaving differently. Then think about what you could do to alleviate the situation in that moment. Could you take time out and gather your thoughts? Could you perform a breathing exercise to calm down? What could you do in that moment to keep you grounded? After your mood swing, reflect on what happened. What was helpful during the situation? Do you think you handled that successfully? What did you want during that situation that might help you next time? Keep a journal or a diary to help you keep track on the processes that help you during your mood swings, and ask those around you how they felt during the situation.
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Anonymous on Apr 17, 2021
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Take 15 minutes each day to yourself meditate and focus on yourself. Focus on your feelings and try to identify what affects your mood. This way in time you will calm your mind and find the best way for you to deal with any and all problems you are facing. You will by doing this work towards a better you and identyfy what brings on your mood swings. The first step in any situation is confronting the problem and step by step work through the issue, step by step. By taking time for yourselfe you will get to know yourselfe on a deeper level wich is s great way to improve and overcome struggels
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SkyeWater on May 20, 2021
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I experience this quite often too- I tried using other methods to control it like drawing, but I found that when I couldn't draw what I wanted I would get more agitated. So in the end, I told my family about my behavior and how to intepret it better (like, if I close my door fast when angry, i'm not trying to throw a tantrum but rather I feel like I would not be able to hold a conversation properly so I closed the door to signify that) while of course I would apologise once I am feeling more stable. So essentially, if you want to manage them better, it's good to tell your close friends and family on how to properly interpret mood swings so they can help you manage them too- mood swings are hard to control by yourself, especially if you are in a foul mood. It is always good to have a helping hand outside.
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Anonymous on May 20, 2021
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What emotions do you feel? If you feel sad or angry towards people for seemingly no reason, try to focus on why you are feeling these things. if you still don't know why then, don't try to control these emotions, Let them out. Not in a physical way or a way that might bother other people, just tell them you will need a break and that might help. I have been in that place once, you can try to control them, but it will be hard if you don't know its cause. This is entirely optional, of course. Good luck!
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Euphoricstar2005 on May 22, 2021
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I can understand and relate to it. What I do to not hurt anyone is when I am going to speak something that might offend someone I make it pass three questions which are , is it true? Is it necessary? Will this make the person happy if it doesn't pass the questions I just don't say it or try to flip it so it might change the tone. You can also do something which might be helpful when you feel a emotion extremely like , extremely angry or happy just don't talk to anyone when you know you aren't in control of your emotions just isolate yourself and always try to analyse situation write your feelings out these all things may help and it's so nice to see that you want to improve!
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bellarina74 on Jun 5, 2021
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Taking time for yourself and working through your thoughts and the triggers for the rapid mood swings can be done in various ways. Some people choose to speak with a friend, others may choose a qualified counsellor relating to their issues at hand. If you don't feel you can talk to a counsellor or family/friend you could also keep a journal or write down your triggers. Personally, I get large pieces of paper and write on them what is bothering me. I then prioritise what I should be initially focusing on and them list the others issues accordingly to also be completed. As I complete a task I tick it off my list so I have visualisation of where things are at. The more I see being ticked off, the better I feel about myself.
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greendream7 on Jun 11, 2021
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It would be helpful for you to keep a journal to see when, how and how often, why those swings occur, what triggers them, how they fade away and how long they stay, what makes them fade. You can then analyse them yourself since you are the expert of yourself and your life. Next step is to develop some kind of strategies to manage, control and eventually heal your mood swings. If they are often and severe they can harm you, your relationships, your career and yes, eventually your finance, too. You would not want that to happen. Self-awareness is the key to self-management.
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hopefulArrow2212 on Jul 10, 2021
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Firstly, it's great that you spotted this issue and are seeking help to avoid hurting people. That is a brave and a good first step. The most important thing would be to find out what triggers these mood swings, and try to preempt them with something like a breathing or calming exercise such as meditation. When you feel that emotion forming, it'd probably be best to step away from the situation politely and go somewhere where you can be alone and take some deep breathes, and say some affirmations to yourself that you can get through the situation and will remain calm. Remind yourself that you do not want to hurt anyone even if the other party may be frustrating you. If you in a situation where you are facing this at work and are able to have someone who can step in for you for a moment so you can compose yourself, you can ask them to do so.
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mellowmushroom0413 on Jul 14, 2021
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If you're experiencing very severe mood swings, first and foremost, it would be wise to seek help from a medical professional. Environmentally, the most we can do is take ourselves out of a situation. This is far easier than trying to make ourselves stop feeling a particular feeling or emotion. If you feel like your feelings are getting too intense, you have every right to go off on your own for a bit to simmer down before going back around other people. It's also a good opportunity to evaluate where the sudden feelings came from. Best of luck :)
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