I find myself thinking of people as useless and tedious. What's wrong with me?

There's nothing wrong with you, but there is probably a root to where these thoughts are coming from. Trauma from abuse, depression, anxiety, a history of bullying, and just having your trust broken are all things that can make you believe that people are bad. Even if these thoughts come unintentionally, it might be your brain trying to protect yourself from getting hurt again. Look at your past experiences and maybe you can see a connection. As for the thoughts, perhaps try challenging them. Black-and-white thinking is a harmful thought process that can come after negative experiences with others. Challenge the negative thoughts that come to you. If you can't see others in a positive light, try towards seeing them in a neutral light: an imperfect human with both good and bad qualities. Don't hesitate to see a professional if you need one!

Probably things are not going according to your way. Neither you nor other people are capable of solving the situation going around you. So you are developing this tendency to find them useless. Don't pass judgment. If you find yourself being judgmental, stop yourself. ... Understand. Instead of judging someone for what he's done or how he looks, try instead to understand the person. ... Accept. Once you begin to understand, or at least think you kind of understand, try to accept. ... Love. In most cases, we judge others in order to feel better about ourselves, because we are lacking self-acceptance and self-love. ... If we could all learn to love ourselves, we would make our world a much more compassionate and much less judgmental place.

Try to see the little things in life and be grateful because someone is always going to have it worse than you do. You could be disabled or poor or have any other amount of endless issues but what you focus on is what is going to be your reality. Take a moment to look at what is outside like the plants and the animals and try to think positively even if its only for like 10 minutes. You can start to change your way of thinking and make changes, but you have to be the one to do so. No one can do this for you.

Nothing's wrong with you - for all we know, it may even be accurate! But it may also be a symptom of a mindset you've slipped into. Either way, it sounds like some kind of slump you can take actions to get out of, or test. Perhaps life has become boring to you. Or perhaps you could focus more on the journey of collecting new ideas from other people. In the case that it's really 'them', you yourself could try to pick up a new hobby, for with new hobbies come new communities of inspiring people. Sharpening a skill would also help if life has indeed become boring to you.

You are very numb and you do not know what to feel and you just want to be alone. You should talk to someone about that. It could lead to many thoughts and it could lead you to thinking that you are useless and tedious as well due to you being a human being. We are all here for a reason. If it weren't for every man made thing and basically everything in the whole world and possibly outside of earth.. it would not be what it would be. We are very unique beings on this earth that we know of.

Why do you think something is wrong with you? And is this something you occasionally catch yourself feeling, or do you feel it all the time? Your feelings are relatable, and I think everyone, or at least every introverted person, has at some point felt a similar feeling with regard to people. Sometimes, we can feel a frustration with those around us, or even grow irritated with their seemingly unnecessary presence or intrusions. If you find yourself feeling that way, it may be a sign that you need time alone to "recharge" away from people. If it is a more consistent feeling, that is, if it is something you feel all the time and it causes you concern, you may want to discuss the feeling with a mental health provider to analyze the cause of the feeling.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. Any thought or feeling you have are valid. Doesn't mean they are right it just means that they always have a good reason to be here... Try to remember what made you hold this belief about people and try to get help to heal this deep wound. Maybe you were abandonned at a point in your life? maybe you were betrayed? Many things can happen to us that have a huge impact on our mindset... And that our loved one and closest friends are not able to see... Try to be kind to yourself. Best of luck in your journey!

Nothing is wrong with you. You will find your people in life, you just need to keep an open mind. If you struggle to keep friends, that's just because you haven't met the right people yet! There's someone for everyone x You are not useless or tedious. I have felt that way in my life before, too, and I never expected to find the wonderful tribe of friends I have now. It was a long journey to get here, but it was so, so worth every step I had to take to get here. Have faith and know that you won't be alone forever x

It is totally okay and valid to be feeling this way, it does not mean that you are a bad person whatsoever! You may be feeling burnt out by social interaction, or by the people you are with! It is also possible that you are feeling the stress from other areas of your life such as work, school, family, etc. and that is detracting from the amount of energy you have to deal with other people! Everyone experiences this at least once in their lifetime, so you are not alone! Take note of how you feel the next time you are around a group of people. Do they make you feel frustrated, angry, exhausted, joyful, excited? Then think about what you were doing earlier in the day, or in the past week! Is there anything that may have contributed to the way you were feeling (good or bad)? Keep track of these experiences and the feelings that go along with them, and you may see a pattern! You deserve to be around people that make you feel uplifted, validated, and supported. It's also okay to withdraw for a while and take some time to yourself to reset and practice self-care. Either way, listen to yourself and what your body is telling you, there's no need to force yourself to do things that make you feel bad!

Thank you for reaching out! I can understand from your question that your negative perception of people is making you feel that you are unfair in thinking like this and that your perceptions are something you should fix. You may first of all ask yourself where are these negative perceptions coming from. In what ways has your childhood shaped how you perceived others? Has any childhood experience (bullying, abusive parents or family members) got anything to do with how you feel to the point your projecting this onto other people, thinking they too are not trustworthy and have ill intentions? People are often vulnerable to scrutinizing other people. What we can instead do is to create a sense of understanding amongst ourselves to realize the fact that each and every one of us is in a league of our own. This is a story not of comparison but of you as an individual. We can instill good habits in others but assuming that they are useless says what about ourselves? Do we have a deep insecurity inside of us? Are we overconfident or too picky or so we set our standards too high towards how others should be? You may want to ask yourself how you find giving people the benefit of the doubt. Are you considering their troubles or worries of life’s general before you form your perception of them? To explore your thoughts further you are welcome to communicate 1-1 with any of our amazing listeners or therapists on our site. There is a Relationship support community room open on our site 24/7 every Thursday if you want to share you experience in a group environment. The first step for self-improvement is being accepting what imperfection you have about yourself. It’s clear you want to be able to trust others more and learn to give them benefit of the doubt.