I find myself thinking of people as useless and tedious. What's wrong with me?

Not to sound psychoanalytic, but personally, I've sometimes wondered whether these thoughts could be a reflection of how I've felt about myself. As a self-healer, I've always wanted to find the answers to my questions, and to feel them as lucidly as possible. For a very long time, I thought that my way towards these answers would in large part derive from my interactions with, and dealings with, others around me. I sought to gain my own direction through them, in a way. And when I discovered they didn't hold the exact answers I needed (the ones to unlock subsequent questions), I noticed myself feeling some irritability. At times, not receiving these answers was, in a word, extremely tedious. In this case, I needed to realize that part of my 'self-healing' would require time spent turning inwards. Once I learned this lesson, it became easier for me to appreciate others in ways that didn't give rise to feelings of tediousness or irritability. Among other things, I found a deeper and more sustainable appreciation for the people around me. Though I can't exactly answer the question, because I don't know your circumstance, I hope this story could possibly awaken some clues. :)

It sounds like you haven't found people you are compatible with. I don't think there's anything wrong with you actually, it's quite normal to feel this way when you feel disconnected, at least that's been my experience. Perhaps you find their conversations dull or draining, or just don't see yourself as part of the group at all. I think finding new connections could be beneficial. The important thing to figure out is, what are your values as a person? Sometimes simply being around people of similar value is comforting. You might feel more connected and confident, knowing your values are shared. It's something to think about if nothing else. I can't tell you what to do with your life, but I understand where you're coming from. Take care.

Nothing is wrong with you. It's valid and completely okay to get frustrated with people. This feeling is completely okay and I've felt similarly as well! Life has a lot of challenges, and you're doing an amazing job navigating through them. To me it seems like sometimes you may have a short temper, and you get irritated quickly. I struggle with the same things a lot of the time, and I find that a lot of the time it's projection or just exhaustion from the day! Could this be accurate? Would you like to explain what bothers you or possibly triggers these thoughts?

There is nothing wrong with you. It is just normal to sometimes get overwhelmed by spending too much time around people. With no personal time. Its normal to feel this way, don't let anyone let you believe otherwise. There are few things you can try to make sure you avoid letting yourself from feeling this way. 1. You could try to make sure that you have some personal time set aside. Use this time to just seat around with yourself. And recharge for s while. this will really help you from feeling overwhelmed. 2. Identify circumstances that lead you to feeling this way. 3. Ensure that you spend time with people who do not make you feel triggered or they are unreliable.

You are possibly feeling depressed and dealing with your own inner problems. This means you have less energy to support yourself and to interact with those around you. You are also probably having a hard time living in the modern world as it has so many needs from us and so many things we have to live up to. By learning more about yourself, your wants and needs, and your hurts, you will feel more at peace. Chatting to someone here on 7Cups is good for that or talking to a parent or trusted friend. It might help you to talk to your doctor or finding a good counsellor too so you can ask lots of questions about who you are. Look to yourself first. When you feel more at ease in yourself and the world you will have energy to interact with others. You may want to help others who have gone through similar challenges and 7Cups is a great place to do that too.

Nothing is wrong with you. I deal with this problem as well. Sometimes humans can make no sense and make stupid decisions and I think they're just annoying and a waste of space. But those traits don't define people completely and people can be nice and worth living. Everyone has their own traits and how they act like in the world and nothing is invalid. Stress from other people can make us feel like they're only an obstacle and in our way and we can interpret that as people being useless and tedious. Just remember that there is more to people than just that.

I am smiling because I feel the same way at times. Sometimes we just do not feel in alignment with other peoples thoughts, feelings, and actions. For example, I do not like superficial friends and for me, personally, I find them useless. I do not want to waste my valuable time on that type of interaction. This took some time to explore my personality and what makes me happy. Now, I know that it is perfectly fine for me to focus on having a smaller set of quality friendships. Sometimes, we cannot avoid people that annoy us, such as at work. I suggest you explore why you are feeling that way, too. It will give you good insight about yourself and your likes and dislikes. I suggest finding coping tools to deal with difficult situations if you find yourself getting mad or upset in those situations.

i believe if you personally think of other people, whether you know them or not, as useless and/or tedious, you might have a phobia of being socially adept. everyone in this world has a purpose, so no one is useless or tedious. this does not mean that something is wrong with you, but it can mean that you need to open up to the world and society by becoming social adept. taking a class or course online or at a local college can help. going to the library and participating in its resources and activities will help you to make friends with people who share the same opinions or hobbies that you have. no one is useless because everyone has a purpose. no one is tedious because no one is perfect, and difference is what makes people special.

There is nothing wrong with you, let's get that straight. Nothing is wrong with you, you should know that. You are an important person and special. Love yourself!! Next, finding people useless and tedious could be a sign of not being impressed with them or not knowing how to respond to them. I get it-we all have people we don't necessarily like. That's not a big deal, as having enemies is natural-but finding some people boring is natural, too. In elementary, middle, and high school, you may have found that some teachers could be boring, or that someone in your class could have been boring-no big deal. Finding someone boring is just a fact of life. There is nothing wrong with that. ☺ Take care!!!