I can't get angry at the people I care about, is there something wrong with me?
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Updated: May 1, 2022
MoonlitHaze
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Apr 29, 2016
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Not at all. I find this to be hard even for myself at times. When you care about people, you don't want to have conflict, especially if you are more introverted and don't like to cause drama. (Most people don't.) It's uncomfortable and stressful, and most people would prefer to not deal with it. But at the same time you have to realize when people are taking advantage of that. There is nothing wrong with being a forgiving person. Chances are that means you are very empathetic and can understand why people might make the mistakes they do, but at the same time this can very easily turn into other's taking advantage of you. If someone makes a mistake once and you forgive them, then that's alright if the person genuinly did not mean to upset you or cause conflict, but if the person knows that it does and continues to do it, you need to say something. You don't have to get "angry", but its important to let them know how it makes you feel.
Prosperity
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Apr 30, 2016
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No, not at all. Alot of people are like that and that is perfectly fine. You just have to make sure that they aren't taking advantage of that part of your personality. ⌒.⌒
Anonymous
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Apr 30, 2016
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Definitely not. You have a forgiving personality and that's okay. I think though sometimes people start to notice and feel like they could walk all over you.
thesecretkeeper1115
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May 1, 2016
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nothing's wrong with you. It is the same with happiness, you cannot force it if you really don't feel that way.
courageousComfort70
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May 1, 2016
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We are humans and we feel different kinds of emotions. Like joy and sadness, anger is also an emotion we feel. Anger could be good or bad both. But mostly it's destructive. So being angry in the right situations and for good cause is what matters.
unexpectedcatharisis98
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May 1, 2016
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No, there is nothing wrong with you. But, you should hold your ground when it comes to any serious issues that concern your health or well being. You can try being assertive with what you would like them to understand or do in cases where you find yourself unable to get across your feelings. Being assertive about what you want always helps.
SnowInOctober
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May 4, 2016
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As someone who is willing to do anything for people I care about, I have a problem of not getting angry at them even though they actually did something wrong. Some might say I have a prejudice for them or perhaps something is wrong within my mental health as I seem to be very lonely and deprived of friends, to the extent that I am willing to 'tolerate' their mistakes by not getting angry. Or perhaps I have some sort of social anxiety where I am afraid to show my frustrated side of me.
But, I would contest that idea by saying that since I am someone who is close to the person I care about, what if I merely, and GENUINELY do not want to hurt their feelings. There must be a reason why I care about that person so much, perhaps they were there for me in the past when no one was; or perhaps they are someone really close to me like a partner and I do not wish to harm his feelings ?
To get angry at someone would suggest that person made a mistake. What if not being angry at that person is because I have acknowledged that there are better ways to make him or her see that they've done something wrong, such as diplomatically and calmly talking to them instead of getting riled up by emotions.
There are just so many reasons that could justify a person for being unable to get angry...thus that does not suggest there is something wrong.
HeartfeltWords5
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May 6, 2016
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No, not at all. It's a human tendency to not get angry at those for whom you care about. The problem starts when you not get angry at them when they do something beyond 'the limit'. It could mean that you have a huge insecurity about yourself or them or you fear that they'd leave. But, in the end, my conclusion would be that it's quite normal for you to not get angry on those who you care about keeping in mind the warning I listed above too.
kindMoment44
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May 6, 2016
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No, you are just a very loving person. You seem like you are a person who sees the greater scheme of life. You seem like you don't need drama in life. Most people get angry, upset, and create drama, and then they forgive and forget. This is a cycle, and when you look on the long term, its pretty pointless because yo are only going to get on with those people again, or the chances are that you will regret ever getting angry. You have nothing wrong with you - you just have a practical, and loving nature and character.
JMAC
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May 6, 2016
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No, there's nothing wrong with you, you just care too much with your loved ones, don't worry about that, just keep living your life .
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