I can't get angry at the people I care about, is there something wrong with me?
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Updated: May 1, 2022
Samar27
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Jan 13, 2019
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It's not about having something wrong with you. At some point, we care and love people lots that we can't be mad or be able to hurt them by any means. It feels like we are attached to them and can't stay that long away from them, or to even stop taking to them for a while. Sometimes we are also afraid or scared that we could hurt their feelings by something we say or do. So we try not to be angry at them and find reasons to why they did that thing, and make up excuses for them rather than being mad or angry at them.
Anonymous
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Aug 16, 2020
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No, there is nothing wrong about you if you don't get angry at people you care about. Instead this makes you a much more kin and compassionate person, who cares and loves for people around them. Although,one should always be careful to treat themselves right too, being angry at someone is only an impression as to how much someone's actions and words affect you or hurt you if they feelings and actions aren't reciprocated and there is nothing wrong with that as well, we are allowed to show people that we care for that we need them or maybe tell them if they do something wrong.
Udaythelistner
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Jan 7, 2022
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Anger is an expression of thoughts & it's completely upon us how/when/whom do we express it. It's a personal choice of yours that you dont want to get angry on certain people there is nothing wrong in it. However, there is another thing I want to mention here is, do we make a choice or it's a external trigger to express yourself. For example someone is shouting at you & if you don't react to it this will make the situation null for you & for them as well. So it's completely your choice to react or respond. I hope I am able to answer, it might be confusing as there are two topics in the explanation.
Fenton115
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Jul 20, 2015
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There isn't anything wrong with you. I have often encountered the same problem that you seem to have, as I too have a hard time ever getting mad at the people who I love, even though I often have just reason to. Everyone has different reactions to anger, some people can't control it well, and other people can't express it. The latter can be especially true for the people you care deeply about. So no, there isn't anything wrong with you. However if the people you care about are hurting you in an unhealthy manor, the typical and healthy response would be anger. Unless this is the case I do not think there is anything wrong with you though.
Anonymous
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Aug 3, 2015
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There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. It just means you value the relationship you have with them. You care so much for them because you love them and you can't lose them.
Anonymous
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Aug 4, 2015
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Some people just love harder than others, and there is nothing wrong with that! While it may make you unable to get mad at these people, it also gives you the ability to love so incredibly deeply. Don't take it as a negative, but a positive!
VencyDinn
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Sep 15, 2015
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Not at all. When you really care about someone, there is a tendency to always put the person first.
In my relationship with people, i have learnt to understand people's perspective to life and the way they relate or respond with issues. Relationships are more important than emotions. I have also found out that i can hardly function optimally when i am angry. So i try to stay completely away from that emotion by relating my feeling to the one who made me angry if necessary.
gracefulAngel96
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Sep 17, 2015
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There is nothing wrong with you! Anger is just an emotion, some of us experience it more than others, and some less! Don't stress about it :)
calmoceanbreeze111
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Dec 7, 2015
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I think this question could use some more clarification because in general it seems normal to me to not get angry at those we care about. I think if there was a specific situation to talk about then I would investigate further into whether or not the response is appropriate.
Anonymous
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Mar 13, 2016
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There is nothing wrong with you maybe your just going through a mood changing stage where your emotions change at random times for no particular reason.
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