I can't get angry at the people I care about, is there something wrong with me?
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Updated: May 1, 2022
Anonymous
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Feb 15, 2020
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Of course not. Anger is a normal human emotion that everyone has, it's okay to feel that. And caring about people is a good thing! But even with people you care about, things can't be 100% perfect. So there will always be some frustrating things, and it's okay to be angry about that. Just make sure to talk about it with them, to make it clear that you care about them, they might take your anger for not caring about them, instead of you caring about them but being frustrated about something else. There is nothing wrong with you, it's okay
Anonymous
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Feb 19, 2020
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We process emotions in different ways. What is important is to be aware of our emotions and be mindful of it. A lot of times, there is no right or wrong in feeling, or not feeling emotions. But what is important to remember is that emotions tell us a lot that we need to be willing to listen to. Try to become more conscious of what emotions you feel that may be present instead of anger. Anger may be the emotion you expect to feel, try tuning in to see what else you feel and think about in those times
YourGuardianAngel4ever
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Feb 22, 2020
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There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. Being angry is harmful to others as we can let our emotions become physical or verbal as well as harming ourselves through self violence. If you want to give them your perspective on an argument or debate there is no reason to yell at them. To clearly and calmly talk to them instead of showing anger is very much better. Knowing that you are mature enough to handle an arguable situation calmly, especially with your family and friends is amazing. They are people close to you, you shouldn’t want to hurt them or be angry just being around some of them. Let them know how you feel with a calm and sensible response, not that of a mad person.
SoulHealerSoul
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Apr 9, 2020
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There's nothing wrong with you nor your reaction, sometime when we care so much for others, It's possible that we prioritize their wellness and act on a self destructive way just to avoid us to hurt them, though the real question you could ask yourself is not if you're wrong or not by care that much for them, but if you're taking enough care for yourself, then, and only then, you'll be able to start feeling a real change inside you and making better decisions, which finally will be expressed on different areas of yor life, giving you the strenght and wisdom not to get angry with peoplo you care but to find an asssertive way to express your emotions to them, by being clear without hurt them or diminish yourself.
Here4you2listen
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May 6, 2020
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It sounds like you are very empathetic, understanding and compassionate. This may be why you don't get angry at those you care about, because you are understanding and forgiving. There is nothing wrong with you, in fact more people should be like you. Its important however, to not let ourselves run dry, and not to be over forgiving where we are letting people walk all over us. Its important to set boundaries as well, or to express to our loved ones if we are unhappy with something. However, I think its great you don't get angry. It sounds like you have a lot of patience and that's a great skill. While their is nothing wrong with getting angry, there is also nothing wrong with not being angry. I think a lot of people would appreciate that. I myself don't get angry often.
miraculousPanda99
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May 28, 2020
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Emotions come through differently for different people. I think that things may process differently for those you care about and that’s okay! There isn’t a right or wrong way to feel with people. What that tells me is that you have an empathetic and patient heart. Be patient with yourself too and pay attention to all the emotions you feel. Some may be a derivative of anger like frustration, annoyance etc. either way I don’t believe that makes anything wrong with you. Feelings are unique to you and having them and not having them can both be normal.
Anonymous
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Jun 21, 2020
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I don't think so. You love the people you care about and hence you can forgive them in your heart for whatever they have done. I feel that in most cases when a relationship is healthy, this is good. There is nothing wrong as this is normal human nature. However, if the relationship is tending towards unhealthy or something unforgivable has been done then probably it would be better to distance yourself.
In normal cases, this is perfectly fine and is perfectly normal as well. This shows that you truly care about them and that you are a forgiving person.
Love4youXOXO
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Jun 24, 2020
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When you care about someone so much often their flaws are blurred in your eyes. Your love for them clouds your judgment and doesn’t allow you to see what’s right there. Nothing is wrong with you. It is normal to let your emotions get the best of you some time. Your inability to get angry at someone you care about has to do with the fact you love them to the point where you feel like you need them and your life wouldn’t be complete without them. It also reveals the manipulation love has over you. Nothing is wrong with you, just learn that even thoughts you care about can hurt you. How can you be there for others that need you when you are manipulated to the plaint where you deteriorate.
Anonymous
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Jul 9, 2020
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I don't believe that there is something wrong with not be able to get angry at loved ones. For me even if it's something that I know others would get angry about I know that deep down they all still love me and they show it by all of the good days we have. People will believe that there is something wrong with them because they don't get mad at the people they care about because they are empathetic. You understand what that person is saying and why they are doing their actions and then you don't get mad because of that understanding. In conclusion, there is nothing wrong with remaining calm and friendly with the ones that you care about.
Anonymous
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Jul 16, 2020
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In my opinion, no, I don t think that there is something wrong with you. We can say we can t get angry at the people that we care about., but we sometimes do. The thing is that we do it for a short amount of time, we can t stay angry at those people, because they are one of the source of our happiness. We can t get angry at the thing that makes us get up from the bed in the mornings or simplu put a smile on our faces. This is my opinion on this subject.
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