I can't get angry at the people I care about, is there something wrong with me?
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Updated: May 1, 2022
Ericka0503
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Jun 22, 2018
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Not at all! Some people rarely experience anger. It is quite a common thing. You may feel as if you are not being loyal to them or betraying them if you are angry. You may instead feel sad, upset, or even anxious. When this happens try to take time for yourself. Breathe deeply and check in with yourself.
Greenmatchavibes
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Jun 23, 2018
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This question made me think!! I also wonder about this in my personal experience. It is difficult for me to be angry even at people I do not care for! I wonder if its because I grew up with a kind and patient mother, who was taken for granted many times by my siblings and I. I wonder if not being capable of anger is because we are honest with our feelings: Anger arises from hurt, so I maybe we remain in the hurt feelings without wandering into any other emotion..
Not being capable of anger could arise from many factors. Whatever the reason, I hope you find people who will not take that for granted and will love your sincere emotions.
Anonymous
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Jun 24, 2018
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Nah, you're just too attached to them and your feeling for them clouding your judgement. Just make some space between you and them. Having too much care can hurt you so much.
Caroline1908
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Jun 24, 2018
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It sounds like you care so much about the person that you try to block off feelings of anger. There's nothing wrong with you, but try to allow yourself to feel and experience emotions as they arise. Remember, anger isn't always a bad thing. How you deal with your anger matters, but the emotion itself isn't bad nor good. Feelings just ARE, and we can't change them.
Rellen2013
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Jun 24, 2018
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Anger can be a difficult emotion to perceive because it is often entangled in other underlying conflicting emotions. The best thing to do is to write down how you feel about these people and exploring other words besides anger and then talk about those feelings with someone who can listen and empathize with you
Anonymous
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Jun 28, 2018
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No, there is absolutly nothing wrong with that! It is very normal to have an instinct in which not to hurt people you love, or at least care for.
Anonymous
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Jun 30, 2018
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You are very understanding and you know people make mistakes so as long as you know how to fix it ,.
peacefulAngel99
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Jun 30, 2018
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Of course there isn't, It's actually a natural feeling for alot of people! Nobody likes to hurt the people they love because when you hurt them it hurts you!
Kayaondra02
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Jul 11, 2018
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Usually if you care about someone you want to be there for them. You have this irrational fear of hurting them. Since you care about, and for, them you don’t want to hurt them, (make them upset) As a caring person you care about how they feel.
Belle2023
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Jul 13, 2018
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Their is nothing wrong with you. It’s totally normal when you feel upset or angry with your family it’s by something that happened and eventually that will go away.
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