How can I stop someone from hurting me when they don't care about my feelings?

If they don't care about your feelings, I don't think they care enough about you, for you to continue waste your time on them. Just tell them directly and try to discuss about this with them. If this fails, just push them away from your life.

How do you care for yourself when you have bad feelings? You're hurt when people don't care about how you feel and that's understandable. We all deserve to be heard and validated. Why do you think it hurts you when others show they don't care about your feelings? Are you asking how to stop feeling hurt when people don't care? Perhaps you mean to ask how to make others care? Remember, you ultimately have no control over other people's opinions or actions, and their opinions are not representative of you - they only represent those people. Your own opinions about your feelings are what will be important in the long-run. Thinking about why these things affect you and thinking patterns or life style changes that you can make to change your reactions over time can help, but ultimately you know what is best for you. You know your feelings matter and that's important.

If they do not care about you, then you should remind yourself that there is nothing they can do to hurt you because even though it doesn't feel like it they aren't a good person to be around.

Ignore them then walk away from them. Let them know that you want nothing to do with them anymore.

Personally I think the best course is to limit your contact with this person, and to be mindful that this person does not control you, or your feelings. You get to choose how you react and feel. Take care.

You need to detach yourself from that person. You are worthy and do not deserve to be hurt by someone who doesn't care and doesn't deserve someone like you. Be your own hero.

Cut them off from your life. Although extreme, it follows the principle of not wasting your time with people who does not respect or value your feelings. However, if you feel like this person is worth at the end of the day, have a serious talk with him/her about it. Perhaps he/she does not even realize that they are hurting you.

Every time I need him.. need to talk just want him to listen. Told him many times I’m not mad I’m hurt an all I need is to be held an told it’s all gonna be okay.. i get nothing.. I have him a choice 3 times in a row game or me.. well needless to say I’m not what he choose so... what’s my next step?

First, it depends of the place they have in your life. If they are a family member, you should probably try harder to fix that because you cannot change blood relationships. However, if they are not, ignore them and detach yourself from them. Avoid the places they go, do not talk to them or about them, delete them from your social medias, avoid eyes contact, keep yourself busy so that they see you have no time for them, listen to music when you are obliged to be near them so that you cannot hear what they say. Time will pass by and they will leave you alone. Good luck!

In this case, it is important to set appropriate boundaries with the person and the relationship so you don't continue to get hurt. If the relationship is with someone close to you, like family, appropriate boundaries can be set so the person doesn't continue to hurt you. If the person hurting you is a friend or another relationship, boundaries need to be set as well as possibly not having that person as a friend anymore. Ultimately, your safety in relationships is the most important. Remember that you have value and you matter. You deserve to have people in your life that value you. Keep your head up. :)