How can I stop lashing out at those who try to help me?

Everyone responds to situations differently. Identifying that you need to change how you react is step 1. Seek the appropriate professional help if necessary and practice reacting to the situation in a more calm and content manner.

Lashing out is all part of having emotions and we all do it occasionally. Try not to be angry or upset about lashing out, its a natural defensive mechanism. Try and figure out what is triggering these reactions and then you can work on the deeper issue.

Is lashing out a way to reestablish control from those who are meaning well but are not allowing you to make your own decisions? Lashing out can be a hurtful behavior and a soft touch can be a healthier alternative. Instead of lashing out, you can write a letter, send and email of speak to people in private about what you need and would really like them to do.

well if you do look at pain or joy they are conditions felt by a person, people in general do know themselves best, but in my opinion this question above is a lil more complex than that, see when someone does refuse help he/she either does know themselves well enough to take care of the problem, at this case the way they will reject outside help is mostly politely. but some people look at problems and pains as a way of identity, you must reflect and ask yourself if you are brave enough to have yourself judged, to face your fear of entering a new challenge to make yourself better, because some people just know too much, they know that being helped by someone is also entering a whole new processes of admitting mistakes discovering new difficulties coping with weaknesses, when you lash at someone you are doing this because you have been triggered by something deep down in you, you must face it, understand it . people that dont accept help, dont accept themselves yet, make peace with who you are now. and you will have no problem accepting help.