How can I learn to control my emotions when I don't even know what they are?

One cannot know they have emotions unless he can identify them. Neglect them. Use your brain. You choose what you feel.

Maybe speaking to a professional will help you be able to understand you emotions more. Usually when we are confused about our emotions there are really underlying reasons for these emotions. A counsellor is a great resource to bounce ideas and concerns off of.

I think sometimes you can find a pattern for your emotions by paying closer attention to how certain things make you feel. From there, you can try to figure out what's the best way for you to handle your emotions.

Emotions are a tricky thing to handle, and learning to discover exactly what you're feeling takes practice and time. It can be discouraging at times, but don't worry, we all struggle with this. I want you to picture a maze. The kind with the tall bushes at a castle, that take hours to get out of. Now plant a person right in the middle. The maze is their emotions. Now imagine yourself in a plane above the maze. You can see down and know the way out, but the person in the middle doesn't see it. You have to be the person in the plane for yourself. You have to imagine yourself looking in on the situation to analyze how you're feeling. Let's say you are crying, but you don't know whether it's sadness, stress, anger, etc. Be the person in the plane, sort of like a detective. Think, what has happened in the last hour/day/week/month/year that could make me cry? Narrow it down to the most recent events or persistent ones. Now you can sort of gauge where the feelings are coming from, right? Now your job as the person in the plane is to guide the confused person in the maze. You can see the way out, so help them! Now here's the mind blowing part. You're actually both those people- the one in the maze AND the plan. When you put your head and heart together, you can do incredible things including finding how you feel and learning to deal with those emotions.

The first step is getting to know yourself, sit in a quiet place and just try to think who you are, look at the picture of your life, your aims your goals and you'll see emotions attaching themselves to each and every memory, this is the best way :)

I typically start with trying to name my emotions, and dig deeper each time. I'll ask myself a few questions in attempt to name emotions. I'll do this in my journal or on my phone. How long have I been feeling this way? How intense is this feeling? What happened? Where did that come from? Have I felt this way before? What happened last time? Can I explain what is happening to a 5 year old? Who can I talk to? Emotional control for me is more about thought mindfulness and pairing that with an emotion and an action/reaction. Most emotional control for me is proactive - but everyone is different and each situation can be different as far as emotional responses are concerned.

You could have counselling or therapy to help you explore your emotions tgen once you understand your emotions you can learn coping stradgies to control them.

You star by observing your thoughts, your emotions are not something that is formed in a vacuum. What are you thinking about? is the past? is the future?. The most effective tool I found was a book called: the power of now by Eckart Toole

I try not to overreact. I would stop and look deep into myself to find the answer of how and why I feel this way. Sometimes I would google online for "adjectives of emotions". There are loads of adjectives that can help me identify my emotions.

You have to learn more about them. Try researching the psychology and the philosophy behind feelings, you'll be surprised :)